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10/02/2014 at 17:10
10/02/2014 at 17:11
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10/02/2014 at 17:39
Maybe say instead that you can relate to it being hard to deal with butyou know from personal experience that it doesn't mean that her friend isn't happy for her?
It's tricky for both of you x
10/02/2014 at 17:51
Carole, you're PERFECTLY within your rights to use that as a way of explaining. Maybe she's even coming at it from that angle to enable you to do that. You could say 'that's a shame, I feel like your friend some days too so I do understand where she's coming from, I hope things sort themselves out'.
I think it would be good for both of you if it was acknowledged. Bless you, horrible situation and lovely of you to be thinking of her feelings.
10/02/2014 at 18:40
I agree with counter too, thinking of you. X
10/02/2014 at 19:20
Weekender has hit the mail on the head and it's worded in a nice way :-)
10/02/2014 at 19:26
*nail....stupid predictive text!
11/02/2014 at 09:35
thanks everyone. I'm going to sit it on this morning and make sure that I'm not being hasty with my reply.
11/02/2014 at 14:07
I think you are well within your rights to say something. However, when I said something to my second time pregnant SIL about how I was struggling with pregnancy news and constant scan photos etc she reponded by saying, amongst other things 'you say it feels like everyone around you is pregnant, would any of them want to buy my pram? cos I will need a double now...'
So just be warned it may fall on deaf ears.
11/02/2014 at 16:14
very true. it's also usually about this time that people start to ask questions about Luke's heart condition, I've learnt that they aren't showing genuine interest but preparing themselves to ask questions at the next scan.
11/02/2014 at 16:25
so I've sent the text: good news about your scan and telling the girls. have you told work yet? sorry to hear that 'friend' wasn't so excited on the phone. it sounds like it was bad timing and you weren't to know. I still find pregnancy and new baby news difficult to hear so I can relate to those feelings. I'm sure she is still pleased for you. Give it time.
11/02/2014 at 16:27
Sounds perfect Carole x
11/02/2014 at 16:31
just got a reply. lots of information about the friend who has sadly miscarried. No acknowledgement of me though. gosh that sounds so whiney. I don't know why I bothered.
11/02/2014 at 16:32
That's really nice x
11/02/2014 at 16:33
My post was saying your message was nice. Her reply... Frustrating. Some people just can't have those communications, can't deal with it. Sorry you didn't get more Carole.
11/02/2014 at 17:48
I think she may have got it, even though she didn't acknowledge it babe xx hopefully you may start to see more sensitivity from her in light of this in the future xxx big hugs xxx
11/02/2014 at 18:40
I actually feel cross. I have shown lots of sympathy and asked lots of questions and she has not even asked me once 'how I am', even if you don't acknowledge the point I was trying to make she has not once asked me about me or my family.
12/02/2014 at 04:22
Oh Carole, I missed this. Is she quite self-centred or do you think that maybe she finds it difficult to raise with you? You are a better person than me for contacting her. When my SIL fell pregnant after my MC, I didn't even msg her. I do think that sometimes people are so wrapped up in their own happy bubble that they forget to consider other peoples feelings. I'm just sorry it is your sister, I'd expect her to have more common sense around you xxxx
12/02/2014 at 09:38
She sounds just like my SIL. Sorry she hasn't shown any empathy. I'm sure she feels is. Sometimes people forget that they're not the only ones with feelings, and those people we take for granted are normally the ones who end up getting hurt because of it. x
12/02/2014 at 10:30
im sorry shes a bit rubbish Carole :( some people are very self absorbed
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