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17/04/2013 at 10:06
I've found my half sister (my dads daughter) through FB and I'm debating whether to message her or not.
Bit of background - my dad left before I was born and I've maybe seen him 8 times in 25 years. I kept in contact with his mum (until she died a few years ago) and his brother and sister. His brother and sister don't speak to my dad after a falling out a number of years ago. I've met said half sister maybe twice.
Because of what's happened with FIL recently (heart attack and septicaemia) it's got me thinking about my own dad and whether he actually thinks about me at all.
Would it be totally wrong to message my half sister on FB?
17/04/2013 at 10:09
If you've met her before and know her of sorts then yes send a message. Just don't start questioning about your dad.
17/04/2013 at 10:13
I'd send a friendly "hi just found you on here, how are you doing?" Type message and take it from there. If she doesn't want contact she doesn't need to reply.
My H didn't speak to his sister for about 10 yrs and she contacted me through Bebo this way and I passed her details in to him.
Hope it works out for you x
WBelleS, she'll probably be glad to hear from you x
17/04/2013 at 10:18
WeveryoneS x you will never know if you don't try x
17/04/2013 at 10:27
Thanks ladies. The last time I met her was probably about 10 years ago. I saw her at my grandmas funeral a few years when she died but didn't speak. My dad was the same. I'm the kind of person that needs I know things rather than guess or keep wondering. If they don't want contact then that will be that I can close the door. I just feel that as long as the door is slightly open i will be able to either move on or try and build a relationship. I've got so many questions I want to ask them that's been building over the years.
17/04/2013 at 10:33
Then try and make contact with her initially build that relationship a little and then ask about your dad.
Good luck x
17/04/2013 at 10:36
Thanks Belle x
17/04/2013 at 11:20
If it were me, I wouldn't.
However, I know this isn't the first time you've asked this question, so, I think you personally Need to message her as you can't put it down IYSWIM? I am one who can walk away and forget (my reason for messaging would be that she could find me if she wanted to - but i'd guess many wouldd be wondering what if she has found you and is sitting wondering the same as you, whether or not to message.?).
Best of luck. Hope you get the reply that you need x
17/04/2013 at 12:11
my dad isnt my real dad, but hadbeen there since i was 3. he has 5 other children which he never sees. one of them has recently got in touch with him, tried to take him for everything he's got and now f*cked off again. before this had happened...i wouldnt have wanted to have been contacted by her. if you want to contact you father then fine i would try and contact him rather than her as it put her in a very difficult situation.
Good luck with what ever you do though. x
17/04/2013 at 20:49
Being blunt I get fed being contacted by my half sister because it is usually because she wants soemthing from me rather than caring about me and it peeves me off and it sounds like you are wanting to do this with her. So from her POV she might not appreciate the contact.
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