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15/03/2010 at 15:47
3 years ago I was pregnant and lost my baby at 16wks, it was the worst thing that has ever happened to me. I was advised by the doctors to have a postmortem done and the results came back saying it was due to my blood pressure being too high and that the placenta just gave up. I had to deliver my baby boy and then have a funeral.
The doc advised if I ever got pregnant again that I would be a high risk pregnancy and I would have to take a baby dose of asprin and a vitaman c drink every day to try and help build a healthy placenta and also keep taking my bp tabs. (please dont try this at home girls, its not for everyone who is pregnant, only under advice of a doc)
I got pregnant again 5 months later, I done everything I was told to do and I was being scanned and checked every 2wks, I also developed an under active thyriod in this pregnancy which is not a good thing to have in pregnancy as just like the high BP it can highten the risk of miscarriage, prem babies ect. At 29wks I was told that I probably would not go full term and was given a steriod injection to help mature the babys lungs just incase. I was told to come back a week later on the tuesday for another scan.
on the sunday of that week I had not felt my baby move about as much as usual so on the monday morning I checked my BP on a machine at home and for the first time in this pregnany it was too high, I called the hospital straight away and explained I was booked in for a check up scan tommorow but could I come in today to get checked as I felt something was wrong.
I got to the hospital and sat for over an hour and a half waiting to be taken. As soon the nurse put the heart monitor machine on my stomach to listen to babys heartbeat she shouted at my mum to pull the emergency button. When I asked what was wrong she said its okay dont worry, even though I could fell her hand shaking on my stomach. Doctors appeard from everywere and I taken to the scan room were I was told the babys heartbeat was far too low and that they would have to get my baby out now. The doc advised it would be by emergency section. My son was born at 13:13pm he weighed only 2pnds 6ozs
My son was born at 13:13pm he weighed only 2pnds 6zs he was 10wks early but a tiny little miracle. We named him before I even seen him, Hayden Lewis Hogg. We did not know then if time was on our side.
He was wisked off to special care were they prepared him to be transported to another hospital, as he hospital he was born in could only care for babys from 32wks. I got to see him for a few moments before he was taken to the other hospital, I had to stay in the hospital he was born in as I was told no bed for me at the other hospital, so we were split up. I begged to get out the hospital and reluctantly after 4 days they let me go. My husband who had been running back and forth from hospital to hospital with my expressed milk for hayden and photos of my baby for me was glad that I was getting out too. I rushed to see hayden, he was the most perfect little baby I had ever see. 7 long wks later hayden proved he was a fighter and got out of hospital at just under 4pnds in weight.
I was told hayden had the cord wrapped around his neck and that also the plancenta was starting to deteriorate again. I have been advised that if I ever get pregnant again I will again be high risk and the chances of it happening again are high. I always said after hayden I wouldnt have anymore, not because I dont want to but because of the risks. I am still on medication now for my high BP and underactive thyriod. Now I think would like to have one more a brother or sister for hayden. I will also be 35 next month.
Help ladies, what are your thoughts on the matter, should I try again or leave well alone? tks che
15/03/2010 at 19:08
Babies are little miracles. Your little guy is definitely a miracle and I'm sure you thank God everyday for him. The risks are high and another pregnancy would definitely play a toll on you, your hubby, Hayden, and the little one on the way. Think about your family and the possible consequences you would each face. Then talk to your husband about the pros and cons. It is defintiely VERY risky, but I have faith in God that he has a plan for you and your family. Pray about it together with your husband. God listens.
On another note, have you ever thought of adoption? Even if you do not get a newborn, Hayden can still have a brother or sister, and you would be giving a child a home. I'm sure once you get to know this child (if you decide to adopt), you will realize that although you gave him/her a home, you will be the one who feels extremely blessed! Although this child may not feel like he/she is "yours" in time, you will realize how special he/she is and you wouldn't be able to imagine your life in other way than with YOUR two (or more) children.
Good luck with your decision. I'll have you in my prayers.
15/03/2010 at 22:08
16/03/2010 at 22:22
Thank you both for your kind words and advice.
I have just finished watching (one born every minuet) next weeks episode is about prem babies and all looks very familiar so I have set sky plus to record just incase I miss it.
I think what me and hubby need to do is talk to the docs about our options and risks, just to get all the facts again and then decide what is best for our family.
I was also ill alot in both my pregnances, some days just could not get out of bed (due to thyriod) and with hayden I was still being/feeling sick for 18wks. Me and pregnancy just dont seem to go very well together. I guess I have hayden to think about now too, would it be fair on him me feeling so rubbish?
Altho who knows I could get pregnant again and everything be fine, ha
17/03/2010 at 22:07
Fingers crossed for ya that you do have another,and a smooth pregnany x
Hey,you'll have to put that maclaren on e-bay and get a double if your'e quick
That programme is addictive,I love watching that! I'll be watching next week,tissues ready,just in case!
27/04/2010 at 07:51
that is "kinda" like with Alice. Waters went, her heart was dipping...they kept saying maybe she was compressing the cord. Come Monday morning though my contractions she was in distress and they wipped her out ASAP and took her off and away to NICU!Ive never had high BP...infact all though pregnancy is was SUPER low, so much so the nurses always got scared I would pass out but I felt fine haha!
I know im going though a prem baby situation and I havent lost a baby before...but I know the pull for another child. I long to be pregnant again! ive even told Adam next year, by May i want to be pregnant again!
I would say have a good long think about it. As much as you dont want to think about it...but...are you strong enough to handle anything if things go wrong...you know...a loss or if you have to do a prem situation again? Im not saying you arent but I Know I dont want to do prem again! its too hard!
I think the body is a wonderful WONDERFUL thing and these babies are even more wonderful. heck if anything happened I bet they would send you to my NICU! in Portsmouth! the best in the country and people are there from all over!
29/04/2010 at 23:27
Just sent you a PM, it was before I had read this post from you so when you read your PM you will prob be like, why is she telling me this again, hee hee.
Anyway does anyone out there have a crystal ball? Ha ha
I still dont know what to do for the best, Think I will go and speak to a doc and see what there advice is now.
I really dont want to do the prem thing again or worse, not sure I could cope again.
02/05/2010 at 01:45
Why dont you get a pendulum and ask it. I would ask for you but as I dont know you PERSONALLY and havent met with your energies I doubt it would give me a 100% answer.
What does your heart tell you ♥
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