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05/05/2013 at 16:22
U this mornign insisted on wearing a party dress as she stated Daddy was taking her to a party. Now he took her to GF's bf's daughter's party one weekend and she was miffed because she just went in her normal clothes. So I let her wear a dress. When I dropped the kids off I explained the party dress by saying she had told me he was takign her to a party and he said the above. It has kind of bugged me all day.
Throwaway comment? Dig at me? Or shitty comment at child?
I know I should just ignore but what would you think? He said it in front of her as well. B has often made up stories about what Ex does with them because obviously he isn't on the whole being the Daddy B wants IYSWIM...
05/05/2013 at 16:39
Did he say it to U, i.e. meaning U is a liar, or was he trying to say you were lying? I think you mean he said it to U? What a horrible thing to say to a tiny child who probably doesn't have the greatest understanding of time in the first place, or a real concept of lies and truth yet (if I'm remembering her approximate age right). That would bug me too QI but sadly I don't know that you can say anything about it without your ex twisting it someway
05/05/2013 at 16:50
The way he said it was definitely aimed at U but wasn't sure if he also meant that we (B and I) were liars from the as well. She is 2 and a half and for her a lot of her life is having wishes and trying to fulfil them. So she keeps telling people I have a baby in my tummy because she wants me to have another baby. However I haven't even considered she is a liar because of it
05/05/2013 at 17:26
That's really mean. A two and a half year old spends a lot of time pretending and imagining, it doesn't make them a liar. I watch my two and a half year old and wish I could dream and pretend the things she does, it looks like so much fun. Let her pretend and enjoy being a little child and ignore what he says, what a pr1ck
05/05/2013 at 17:56
And guess what? They DID got to a party FFS!
05/05/2013 at 18:50
You need to let his comments wash over you QI. Easier said than done, I know but if you keep reminding yourself this it will become second nature to ignore him eventually.
05/05/2013 at 19:39
She can't actively lie at 2 and a half, they can't categorise truth and imagination consistently at that age. Poor U, and poor you
05/05/2013 at 21:14
Thankfully at 2.5 his comment probably meant nothing to her as she wouldn't really understand he was being a ***
06/05/2013 at 07:12
I know I should let his comments wash over me but I just keep thinking how this will affect the kids him making comments like that. My mother often would say I was lying about things to cover up her behaviour when I had told the truth and I don't want the kids havign to go through that. How did I not see I married my mother?
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