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18/10/2013 at 08:46
It was the 7th anniversary of my Step Dads death yesterday. I went to his grave, along with J and my Mum, to find that items we had put there, had gone.
They have been there nearly 7 years. A "Husband" vase, a "Dad" and "Grandad" memorial stone. We know who took them, my step brother and sister. Why? Because my Mum remarried.
This apparently means that we no longer have any right to refer to my beloved Step Dad as Dad (which I did, he pretty much brought me up, and was more of a Dad, than my biological father was), my kids can't refer to him as Grandad, and my Mum sure as hell, can't refer to him as her Husband.
Yesterday was the first time we had been since my Mum re-married (in May), as it is a bit of a distance, and i'm ashamed to say, life got in the way. So, they could have been taken a while ago. There have been times we have gone before, when flowers we had put there, had been taken, and chucked behind another grave (still "fresh" looking, so not even like they were past their best)
My step sister fell out with us after my Step dad died, as she felt my Mum did her out of loads of insurance policies my Step Dad had (which he no longer had, as he cashed them in, after he was left disabled after a work accident), and we no longer talked to my brother, after he was sent to jail for "mistreating" my SIL, so there is no love lost between us all. It is just pathetic. My Dad would be furious, and so let down by them both. They are 41 and 39, you'd think they would grow the f**k up.
I was furious, and it made a hard day, even harder. My Mum felt guilty, which she shouldn't do. She was on her own nearly 6 years, it's not like she hopped in to bed with another man, as soon as my step Dad had died...
Sorry, bit of a brain dump.
18/10/2013 at 08:51
Stealing from a grave? Some people have no shame, whether it is thir dad's grave or not.
Sorry you had such a horrible day.
18/10/2013 at 08:55
That's really sad AK. They sound like absolute twunts.
Sorry it made the day even harder, I hope you are both ok.
18/10/2013 at 08:57
That's disgraceful behaviour and so sad for you and your mum :-(
18/10/2013 at 09:01
That's awful, they sound like horrible people. Hope you and your Mum are ok xx
18/10/2013 at 09:10
That's really awful. I hope you are your mum are ok xx
18/10/2013 at 09:12
Thanks ladies. I'm OK today, but my Mum is gunning for them both.
They care so much now he is dead, yet when he was alive, they only bothered with him when they wanted money. They made a big song and dance about buying a headstone, for "their Dad", yet my Mum ended up paying for it, as they kept making excuses, and we hated him not having a memorial.
Took this yesterday, J really doesn't get that grave yards are not meant to be happy places... (One of J's middle names is William, after my step dad). Where the muddy patch is, to the right of the stone vase, is where the Dad and Grandad memorial stones were, the husband vase was the other side.
18/10/2013 at 09:17
I am disgusted on your behalf that someone would do that.
Hope you and your mum are ok xx
18/10/2013 at 09:31
That's so shocking AK, totally unacceptable. I would be really upset by this too!
Hope your all ok x
18/10/2013 at 11:40
That's truly awful; they should be ashamed. I hope your mum can get over it all.
FWIW, my nieces (8 and 3) like going to the cemetrry to see their great grans and Grandas. It's not a sad place to them; they love seeing the angels on the headstones. It's just somewhere they go.
18/10/2013 at 15:30
That's disgraceful AK. I hope you and your mum are ok.
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