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08/03/2013 at 12:39
Am I the only person left in the world who thinks this is wrong? I know it's cheaper but I just accepted being tied to school holidays as part of having kids. Plus I only get 6 weeks time off work so it's silly for me to 'waste' it during term time.
I seem to be the only person that doesn't go off for a cheap week abroad with the kids in term time. Or some take them out for a week just to go to centre parcs, hardly something special worth missing school for?
grr. I am grumpy today! (Slightly hungover!!)
08/03/2013 at 12:47
No, you're not the only one. As a teacher myself, I can't take time off during term time and we choose to holiday in this country for financial reasons anyway - I'd rather have two or three holidays in the UK than save for one week abroad in a year. Also, as attendance coordinator at my school, I spend a lot of time sending letters and chasing parents of children with low attendance and it definitely makes a difference to a lot of those children when it comes to academic progress. As you say, holidaying in school holidays is a prt of having children.
08/03/2013 at 12:53
For me it depends. If it means children missing assessments, exams, a lot of schooling then I'm against it but if its a one off, once a year then no.
I have done it in the past and will continue to do it unless they would miss out on the above. My H, in his last job and in this job gets given his holidays, he can't pick and choose them like I can so once he's got them, if he can't swap with someone then we are stuck. This year the kids will be missing 4 days when they return after the summer holidays because H's holidays are then and it would mean us not going on a holiday at all. Maybe we are being selfish by taking them out of school but I'm not convinced they are going to miss much.
Last year we wanted to take E out of school for a long weekend, Sat - Mon, her teacher sent a note back saying that she would be having assessments on the Monday so would rather we didn't take her out on the Monday, so we didn't we made sure we came back on the Sunday.
ETA both of mine have a brilliant attendance at school otherwise I might worry about taking them out for holidays.
08/03/2013 at 12:56
To be fair SW, we do authorise holidays where parents are unable to choose their leave dates - we had a situation last year with a parent who was a train driver and had severely restricted leave due to the Jubilee and Olympics and we authorised that holiday. It's the parents who take two weeks every single year and are already planning the next year or more's holidays who frustrate me. Your attitude seems entirely sensible.
08/03/2013 at 12:57
I've taken C out for holidays. Now he's starting to have more assessments, I don't.
08/03/2013 at 13:05
Exactly what margot says.
The mums here seem to take the ten days in the same way as I use my holidays at work, something that almost 'needs' to be taken.
E.g. My friend does not work and her husband can have time off when he wants. So they have had a week at centre parcs in December (cheaper than in school holidays) plus then they're going for a week abroad in may. When I asked if it was the half term week, she said "oh no, that was £500 more". Now I know it's frustrating that its more expensive but for that to be the only consideration makes me mad!
We never ever missed school for holidays when I was a child but perhaps that was because it was a private school and if you're paying for your kids to go to school, you send them in!
08/03/2013 at 13:14
We haven't been in the situation, but I'd possibly take out a day or 2 before the end of term my teacher friend says this is just as bad but I kind if thought it would be better than taking them out for 2 weeks mid term iyswim. As I say though iv not been in the situation before, so never done it. I mentioned on here before I Definetely woukd do it at secondary school and some people said that primary is just as important, and yes it is and I know they do assessments etc but I think I just thought everything is more geared to gcses iyswim although maybe that's the wrong attitude. So in answe to the question I'd possibly consider taking them out a day or so before half term but only for a big holiday (ie not a week in haven but say going to stay with family in oz of USA iyswim)
08/03/2013 at 14:47
I've done it and I will continue to do it. Not every term and for weeks on end but as it stands whilst she's not doing exams or any important assesments then yes we will book holidays and we will enjoy them. Even if they are a cheap week abroad and nothing of meaning to others. A day missed here and there doesn't matter. After all her school has no problem closing for days for parent tutor days - what happened to parents evenings?!
08/03/2013 at 16:57
I think it is wrong. Like Margot I am coming from a teaching point of view. Every day in school is important both socially and academically. It only takes a few lessons for a child to fall behind on a topic. For me days at school are like building blocks. Each day builds upon another to create a firm education.
in saying all this I can understand, for certain reasons, why a day my be missed. However I am against a holiday for 1 or 2 weeks being missed.
08/03/2013 at 17:57
My eldest is 5 and last year I took her out of school for one week to go on holiday. Not a big important holiday to anyone else, just a week in a caravan at Haven, but to my children it was the best experience ever, they didn't stop talking about it for ages after and still remember it now. So I'm taking her out at the end of April again. She has excellent attendance, has only had 1 day off sick since last September and is top of her class for reading and is ahead for most other things too. So in my opinion I am happy with taking her out. I cannot pay hundreds and hundreds of pounds difference to go on holiday in school holidays, I don't believe it's fair on my children to do without a holiday. I was taken out for 2 weeks at a time during high school and achieved high grades in GCSEs so I do think it depends on the individual child too.
08/03/2013 at 19:33
My husband has fixed leave periods so when my children start school, if we don't go away when his leave is then we won't get away. I am hoping that school would authorise in this instance. I was always taken out of school to go away and my parents took work away for me and made sure I didn't fall behind. We always went to France on holiday and a lot of the things we did were useful later in school projects
08/03/2013 at 20:45
I've always been dead against it. In any circumstances and anyone who tells me that they otherwise can't have a holiday as they can't afford it winds me up... what they mean is they don't get such a flashy holiday for their cash.!!
Anyway bi say this but I'm now married to a soldier and there are times when H Won't have seen E for 4 ir 5 months at a time then has enforced 2 week leave. During that time I'd let my chikd miss school (Though we may not be away on hols). We are lucky though that if h is in the UK he normally gets issued leave over summer hols as he can't pick leave dates much.
08/03/2013 at 21:15
LM I'm not talking about being able to afford going abroad on a 'flashy holiday' the holiday I've just booked is in Wales at a Haven caravan site and the difference between the week we're going and the holidays is hundreds of pounds. How can anyone know what other families can/cannot afford??
08/03/2013 at 21:34
I'm a teacher as well and I find it infuriating when my students go on holiday during term time. This means they miss vital hours on their coursework which could result in them getting a lower grade.
08/03/2013 at 21:39
If we went away in school holidays there is no way we could afford to go. Our holiday is precious family time for us, that I feel is important for us as a family, and our children will benefit from it. We've had some tough times and deserve it. And, Little Madam its not about flashy holidays. Its about being able to go at all for some families. Places like Haven charge a lot more in the school holidays, and I'd hardly call it flashy.
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