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01/03/2013 at 11:31
Things keep going msisign in our house and B responds with 'The fairies must have taken it'
However from my point of view it is very obvious that it is him taking and hiding things. Especially as it is him that rediscovers the missing item. Take this morning. My handbag wasn't in its usual place cue me running round in a blind panic. B then found it in the car in his car seat, exclaiming the fairies must have done it.
Not entirely sure how to handle this because he isn't doing this to upset me (although ti bloomin stresses me out) but he is doing it to be the hero when he finds it again. As I am aware of this, this morning I just said that's a straneg place for it to be and didn't comment on him finding it. I don't want to discourage him from rediscovering things but at the same time I don't want to encourage him to do it more.
01/03/2013 at 12:28
I think B is old enough to be asked "are you sure it was the fairies and not you moving it?". If he still insists then ask him to tell the fairiesto give it back and that you'd rather they didn't move things in future without asking you first.
My daughter will tell me things that she's made up - nothing nasty just silly stuff. When she was 3 this was charming and funny. Now she is 5 I contradict her by saying "is that really what happened or have you just made that up?".
I have to say if she hid my handbag first thing I'd not react very tolerantly!
01/03/2013 at 12:35
When I posted this I hoped you'd see it
Since Ex left B has started to make a lot of things up, like you say nothing nasty (although sometimes bloody irritating) just silly stuff. I need to start writing your advice down so I can refer to it at a later date
My friends have commented at how patient I can be with the kids but I think that is possibly more to do with a deficiency in me that I internalise things too often. Some think I let B get away with 'too much' but I am not sure if this is more to do with different parenting styles rather than being too lenient.
01/03/2013 at 14:19
Its not letting him get away with it, its knowing when to go along with something that isn't true and when to make it clear that you know they're lying. And its tricky to get it right as sometimes its not worth the fight.
Although to be fair to her, we have accused her of making up things that are true! Recently they were supposed to have a special visit at school but because of the weather they didn't come as planned. But someone local stepped in on the day. My H thought she was making this up but she wasn't.
Hopefully by gently letting B know re the fairy you won't have to search for your handbag in the mornings.
01/03/2013 at 14:39
Could you say to him " Mummys getting a bit fed up with this fairy now, if you see them please tell them to stop as mummy doesn't like it"?
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