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10/12/2013 at 16:04
How did/do you find it?
I dont mean in terms of work related as i understand it would be hard work, more in terms of feeling left out?
is there always 1 whos on there own? does middle child syndrome exist?
I thought originally i wanted 3, but now im not so sure. I can always see it being two against one.
Just the little everyday things for example, if we had a 7 seater car, 1 would end up being in a row on its own, if we went onff holiday, 1 parent would end up sitting on a plane with 2 kids, so 1 is on its own with the other parent.
If you grew up as one of three how did you find it? or if you have 3, do you notice it on a daily basis?
10/12/2013 at 16:16
I have 3 girls aged 6, 3 and 2 and so far have no problems with anyone being left out. They all have their own bedrooms which I think helps because my friend said her 2 sisters shared a bedroom and she had her own bedroom and she felt her sisters were a lot closer as a result. It probably also depends what sex the children are. The hardest thing about having 3 for me is being able to give them individually what I deem to be enough attention each. I do love having 3 though, the dynamics really work for us.
10/12/2013 at 16:20
Also we have no middle child syndrome here and it does get on my nerves when people keep going on about it to me. I think you can have eldest child syndrome and youngest child syndrome if you think about it so I don't really believe in this 'middle child' syndrome. There are pros and cons to having 1 or 2 or 3 I think you just have to think about what suits your family best. I was one of 2 and never got on with my older brother at all, we used to fight like cat and dog I used to wish I was either an only child or had a younger sister so I would stop worrying too much about the logistics of it and base your decision on how much you would like another child. Also, we fit all 3 of our kids in our back seat so no-one's on their own. Also in other situations as long as you rotate the child who is 'left out' then it should be fine.
10/12/2013 at 16:24
I agree about middle child syndrome - what even is that? I'm the eldest of 3 and if anyone felt left out it's me as the eldest and most sane of the 3 of us I'd love to have more kids but we simply don't have the space for them. I've already got 2 teenagers at each others throats because they share a pigstye - I won't call it a room it's a disgrace - and my poor baby has the teeniest room in the history of small rooms.
10/12/2013 at 16:45
We are currently going round in circles re this , such a harder decision than going from 1 to 2.
We have the room, but would need a new car, I'm not worried about one being left out as I just think that if we had another boy then he'd be football mad like the other 2...a girl would prob be the same , I want a big family, there's only me and my sister and we hate each other so I'd want another I think but its the whole/pregnancy/birth/baby days etc
Think we will just keep going round in circles lol
10/12/2013 at 16:59
I'm one of three, I am the middle child I don't have middle child syndrome my older sister is a fair bit older (12 years) so I don't know if that makes a difference, I do know she didn't feel any resentment towrds my sister and I when we came along and we had a fab relationships with her growing up.
you may get 2 against one but the likely hood is that it won't always be the same way round.
As for the car e only had a 5 seater so if we all went some where then it was 3 in the back more squash than left out.
10/12/2013 at 17:30
what car do you have frankie/drifter? i currently have a megane scenic and could fit 2 ff and 1 rf car seat, but wouldnt fit 3 high backed boosters.
thats a shame belle, maybe in a few years if the girls move out/go to uni.
CP, its a hard decision isnt it.
10/12/2013 at 17:49
I'm 1 of 9, but was 1 of 3 girls living at home. I'm in the middle, and my siblings would definitely say I had middle child syndrome. We were quite close in age (born in '82, '85 and '87), and I was the one that felt left out.
I shared a room with my younger sister, but she was closer to our older sis. even now as adults, they are still close, and I have f**k all to do with them. My older sis was the gobby eldest, "look at me, I was here first", and the youngest was also gobby "look at me, i'm the baby of the family", so I shrank into the background. As a result, I became closer to my parents, than my sisters were. Same goes for now, I am the only one who speaks to my parents.
Having 3 of my own wouldn't work. Space wise, time wise etc, but it is obviously different, for different people. My parents didn't want 3, my younger sis was the result of my Mum puking her pill up.
10/12/2013 at 19:10
We have a Vauxhall Zafira. It has 2 extra seats (which fold down so massive boot) in the back too but we've never needed to use them.
10/12/2013 at 21:25
I am one of 3 and we never had issues. My older sister and younger brother. it's my ideal number for me. I think people generally want what they grew up with.... any more than 3 and you have to drive a people carrier, and I'm sh*t at parking at best of times
11/12/2013 at 06:05
I'm one of 3 and also the middle one. I never felt the middle child syndrome. Growing up we had a great childhood and was great being 1 of 3. Now we are older we are all close and still good. I've never felt that anyone of us were left out.
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