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10/07/2013 at 15:09
My mum has the children. Until last friday my dad was in work, and earning a considerable amount of money so wouldn't accept anything from us with regards to paying for nappies/food/wipes/activities for the children.
Last friday however my dad finished work, having taken a kind of voluntary redundancy (golden handshake) type thing, and so now, once his pay off has run out he doesn't really have any form of income, other than a couple of hundred £s a month from his rental properties.
Things are going to be a bit tighter than they would have been previously until he finds some other job, and even then it probably won't be on the same kind of earnings as he would have been, and so i was going to suggest giving them some money towards the children's upkeep whilst they've got them.
Does anyone else give family money/supply nappies etc.
10/07/2013 at 15:10
I pay for his activities when he is with her. I have offered and offered, but she gets offended
10/07/2013 at 15:15
Currently my mum won't even accept nappies or wipes or anything really. But i know they're going to have to cut back in a few months unless dad gets something else lined up.
10/07/2013 at 15:18
No, although we always sent nappies, wipes etc with him when he needed them.
She used to look after my nephew when he was younger which she was never paid for (my brother and his ex-wife struggled with money), and then offered to look after C for one day a week when I was pg with no mention of money, but was more in a way to help us out with cost of childcare - plus I know she enjoys having C.
10/07/2013 at 15:35
When mil used to pick up from the cm and drop off we used to get her theatre tickets/concert tickets etc. every 2-3 months. I felt it was only right she was doing us a huge favour . It's all the little things that I find difficult ie going to the dentist/for a smear and no one to have the children so having little eyes watching.
10/07/2013 at 15:38
When mil had L I always sent all food and nappies, it totally wouldn't even occurred to me not to send nappies and wipes.
10/07/2013 at 15:50
CP - there is everything at my mums that there is at home, so she has a supply of nappies/wipes/clothes etc. She always has done from when the children were born, so when we visited we never needed to take anything with us.
10/07/2013 at 15:53
Molly goes with her bag packed with her own supplies (used to be nappies and wipes) and always packed lunch. i pay for her membership at the club and her swimming lessons, other than that nothing. they were mortily offended when I suggested it. I do however treat them very well at christmas/birthdays and try to get them little treats every few weeks
10/07/2013 at 15:55
My Mum would tell me to eff off if I offered her money. She wouldn't take money off me when taking C on holiday either.
She has nappies and wipes at her house already.
10/07/2013 at 16:14
My mum used to look after F for me 3 days a week whilst I was at work. She gave up a job she hated to do this but couldn't afford not to have a wage. I used to pay her £20 a day plus supply all nappies/wipes/lunch.
10/07/2013 at 17:31
Not the grandparents but my SIL looked after my son for about 10 months one day a week when I went back to work and I gave her money. I paid it into an account she used for my nieces clothes etc.
Both went wherever they were going with a bag with nappies and wipes packed inside.
10/07/2013 at 19:26
My parents won't accept any money but I supply them with nappies, wipes and milk. Mum won't let me send any food though, and he eats us out of house and home so I shudder to think how much he gets through there!
10/07/2013 at 19:50
My MIL won't accept anything, no money or nappies. We do offer on a regular basis but she won't hear of it.
10/07/2013 at 20:44
My mom comes to my house everyday while I work ( I am home based) she looks after both my boys and has done since birth. She wouldn't and won't have any money from me, but I have set up a standing order of x amount to pay for fuel. We use real nappies so no cost there. She comes most days with something like fruit or some milk or bread she never asks for money for it either but I always give her some and always pay when we go for lunch and will treat her to spa days etc
10/07/2013 at 20:50
My mum helps me on a Friday when she can. We pay her train fair and for everything she does with the children whilst she is here. She wouldn't take money. Since she is at our house we have everything here but if they went to hers I would supply everything
10/07/2013 at 21:00
We have always paid my mum. When I was working she would have Zoe for 2/3 nights at a time a couple of times a month. My mum is on a very tight budget and it meant that she could relax about being able to afford to do activities with Zoe.
10/07/2013 at 21:06
Nope, when I first had K we offered to pay them something but they refused. When small I would take their bottles (either expressed or formula) and when weaning I'd take their lunch ready prepared. They take them out, buy them small things and they never let us give them anything. I do pay them in kind with eggs from our hens though!
10/07/2013 at 22:27
Nope but do take her on holiday with us twice a year and help her with things like her finances, gardening etc. I think implicit in it all is that we'll look after her in her old age.
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