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05/08/2009 at 22:29
I have recently discovered I am expecting my 2nd baby in March 2010. Mt 1st birth was enough to put anyone off for life after 2 days of labour, 1 1/2 agonising hours of pushing, then being told I wasn't fully dilated and ended up having an emergency c-section to deliver my distressed baby.
I would like to know if there is anyone out there who has had a ceasarean on their first and a natural birth on their 2nd baby as I really do not want to have to have another ceasarean, it slowed the bonding process between us and it really hurt for weeks.
05/08/2009 at 22:52
i had a section with ds and even though dd was born only 16mnths later the hospital were more than happy for me to have a vbac, but i chose c-section as dd was at risk of the problems ds had and a section was safer for her, i knew quite a few mums who have had sections then had a nice uncomplicated normal birth after, some more than once!
06/08/2009 at 07:52
06/08/2009 at 10:42
no, far far easier recovery, i was shocked i didnt do the bent over granny walk at all! i do think its easier as i knew what to expect aswell whereas the first time it was a huge shock, but i wouldnt have said i was in pain more uncomfortable, and the hospital agreed recoverys quicker 2nd time and i only stayed two nights!
Best of luck xxx
06/08/2009 at 13:21
an emergency section after a long labour is totally different to a planned section and recovery should be a lot quicker as you wont be as tired.
saying that, i've not had a section, though i might get one this time. but i do know people who said the planned ones are much better
06/08/2009 at 13:47
Hi yes the others are right,planned section is walk in the park after emergency-my friend has recently had DD and was actively encouraged to choose vaginal delivery she didn't want to-same reasons as yourself but was afraid to speak up.
Anyway she was induced 3 days after dd,got upset,they booked her in that afternoon she had a fantastic experience and is doing brilliantly.
My second section was brilliant compared to 1st,weird knowing date you're having baby!!!! Easy to arrange childcare tho!!! If you feel aprehansive,ask for elective then you can stop stressing. Best of luck x
06/08/2009 at 15:54
Thanks for all the advice ladies x
06/08/2009 at 18:31
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06/08/2009 at 19:59
My first son was born by emergency c-section after a 20 hour labour 4 years ago. It was only after having a vaginal delivery with my daughter 23 months later did I realise how hard surgery is on your body and how long the recovery is. I have to admit the closer I got to my due date though I did have niggling feelings that a c-section maybe easier but I think that was just normal nerves and am so glad I didn't. I had my third child 5 months ago and had another great vaginal delivery and would definitely recommend it.
06/08/2009 at 20:29
06/08/2009 at 21:03
Yeah have to admit I was GUTTED to have to have sections,it's awful when other mums say you're too posh to push,I'd have given anything to have vbac but if the consultants tell you then there's no other way.Apparently I have cervical stanosis,so have accepted it now but still longed for a natural birth,mind you I wish I was rich and thin but that isn't happening either!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Good luck Lewie,at end of day however it goes you'll be blessed with another beautiful baby x x
08/08/2009 at 23:33
Hi. i have had two vbac's. And both were great (as far as childbirth goes!). I agree with rebecca, your body recovers so much quicker. Hated not being able to drive or only walk to the end of the road before feeling exhausted. i felt so proud of myself too.i had emergency section with my eldest and was really gutted even thou i knew the reasons were right for having to do it (had a general anaesthetic and it was very stressful and i was very upset and baby was very distressed-when i woke up i couldnt work out why i was in hospital!) I will admit tho, wi my youngest i did actually want a c-section but knew i wouldnt get the general anaesthetic again, and yes i am a wimp...
essentially whatever you decide it has to be your decision, if you wanna go down vbac route dont let your midwife or consultant put you of.but if section is your choice it might be easier second time cos you have an idea wot to expexct,
wotever happens GOOD LUCK!!!
09/08/2009 at 19:47
Thanks for the advice Lynne. It's a great help to hear of all you ladies who've had vbac. I thought it was almost impossible, but now I know the facts. I'm going to go for exactly what I want this time and no-one will stand in my way. I'm taking no crap from tired, understaffed, underpaid midwifes & students (I know they have a tough job to do but hey, our lives are in their hands and they shouldn't be doing half a job - sorry to go on but our experience was so traumtic that we were even offered councelling at the end of it)and I am determined things will not be the same this time around. Thanks guys.
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