Ex didn't turn up for the kids again last night but at least his mother did.

I asked her if Ex had told her about B's tests. Her response - Why did you get him tested for coeliac disease? I explained I hadn't chosen for him to be tested for that but with his ill health I had wanted to find out what was wrong with him. I said they were also checking him for diabetes. Her response - well there's no diabetes on MY side of the family. I explained that there wasn't on mine either but the doctor ahd thought it would be sensible to check due to certain traits he was showing.

I came away with the distinct impression that agin she thinks I am forcibly making B ill or that I am just making it up. TBH I wish I was then there would be considerable less wee and poo to clear up on a regular basis.

EXMIL also looked very ill but it seems a bit rude to say that someone, but as she doesn't believe in getting ill then obviously she wouldn't be ill would she?

FFS, she's a moron isn't she? I can see where he gets it from.

I do wish you didn't have to put up with these people in your life QI. Just move on as usual and make sure you log yet another missed contact he's had. What was the excuse this time?

What an idiot!

Like Belle says, log the missed contact.

Belle - excuse? Why does he have to explain his actions to me or his children? No idea. It was a crystalising moment last night, remembering how much emotional verbal abuse I had to put up with and jsut thought, nowt to do with me now, how long before the children don't have to put up with it thought.

She did once say I was pushing my allergies on to the children. Which was bizarre in itself because the children have dairy intolerances to begin with and I can eat dairy and secondly how can you force an allergy on to someone?

SW - cheers

Log it. Log it. Log it.

But with children and diabetes its something they develop its not herreditory. The herreditory asspect is usually related to type 2 diabetes which is developed in later life (along with other things) so tell her to put that in her pipe and smoke it!

CP how dare you show any medical understanding! EXMIL KNOWS ALL!!! Here take devils claw it will sort you out Got depression? Walk it off. Hypermobile? Walk it off. Got AIDS? Walk it off. IT can all be solved by a good long walk. She took EXFIL for a five mile walk after he came out of hospital for heart surgery

I absoluely dread B and U going to visit her if they are diagnosed as having coeliac disease because she will decide bread and jam won't harm...

Oh god, you have so much to put up with from her!  Crazy woman, and pretty harmful if she would just give them that stuff and it does end up that either of them have coeliac! x

One of my friends said they were so glad she was going to be out of my life because she was so toxic. I saw a domestic abuse counsellor and she described what my EXMIL was like down to a tee without having ever met her because both she and Ex follow an atypical pattern. Part of me is a bit annoyed with myself that I was so compliant for years. The food I can't eat is tomatoes. On several occasions both Ex and his mum had put tomatoes in my food without telling me to test me. Which looking back on is horrendous but sums up their opinion that they are right about everything.

I explained about them to the GP and if the children are diangosed then they will be referred to a dietician to help up with meal planning etc and they will be able to give me information to pass on. Hopefully they will believe medical professionals, even if they don't believe me, but if they don't I just don't know what to do from there on?

If the children are diagnosed you will have to tell your Ex that the dietician has insisted that you both attend the appointment so that you can both hear it.

Now I suspect that he will invent a reason why he can't be there but if you at least try this it won't be you passing everything on.

Of course lots of dads would be there for this kind of thing anyway regardless of the state of the relationship with their ex.

Cedar

If the children are diagnosed you will have to tell your Ex that the dietician has insisted that you both attend the appointment so that you can both hear it.

That's a superb way of putting it, as opposed to me saying I think you should attend. I can put the emphasis on someone else, thank you.

All of that is just so frustrating, really feel for you.

As Cedar says Ex H should definitely be there to see a dietician and understand how going against the advice of professionals WILL harm your children and make them poorly.