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14/05/2013 at 16:01
E has had an invitation to a birthday party at the end of June. It's at a soft play- they get an hour in the play area, an hour of organised games with prizes, dinner and then a little disco to end. These sorts of parties are popular over here due to the weather and the convenience of having everything done for you. A package usually costs between £15 and £30 per child with a minimum of between 10-20 children depending on the venue. Anyway, it states on the back of the invitation that the cost for E to go into the play area will be £10 and to cover her dinner I need to pay £6 unless she doesn't want to eat. What do you make of this?
14/05/2013 at 16:03
I think it's a blooming cheek and would decline.
Come to my party but pay for yourself, unless of course you don't want to play or eat then feel free to come stand in a corner and watch.
14/05/2013 at 16:05
Agree with Belle, it's not on. Even if parents can't afford to pay for everyone themselves then they need to invite less children, or do a cheaper type of party or not do a party at all.
14/05/2013 at 16:06
I'm so glad you said that I actually worried for a bit that I was completely unreasonable for not wanting to go along and spend £16 at soft play! Plus the cost of a present... Surely if you can't afford a party like that, you do something else like a tea party at home. They are only 3 years old after all. I'd never ask for money from people to celebrate my children's birthday, it's rude isn't it?
I'm with Belle, you ask people or you don't but not come and bring a present AND pay for yourself! I'd decline.
14/05/2013 at 16:07
I've just told H and he asked if I was winding him up
14/05/2013 at 16:08
I think that's appalling, I would never invite people to a party and ask them to pay, it's so rude.
The only thing that may have been acceptable is if guests wanted to bring a sibling, they could pay for them to come along too. No way expect the invited child to pay.
I am shocked!
Luckily it's the day after we get back from the UK so I'm going to say we get back very late so best we don't accept as E will probably be tired.
14/05/2013 at 16:09
Yeah that's different Pingu. I know people who say yo ucan bring siblings along but you'd need to pay their entrance cost - food is almost always catered for.
WS are they Arabs?
14/05/2013 at 16:10
Difficult, I tend to think if you are having a party you pay for your guests not ask them to pay for themselves, (In fact I find it cheeky). on the other hand you never know a persons financial situation perhasps they are trying to return invites they have recieved with out really being able to afford to and this is their solution .
14/05/2013 at 16:11
Agree with everyone else. Do her parents have no shame??
I bet you won't be the only one declining the invitation WS.
Drifter I see your point about the parent not being able to afford it but if that's the case, they really shouldn't be having the party there, they should find a cheaper alternative even if it's a tea party at home.
14/05/2013 at 16:13
The girls were all invited to a birthday party at a local soft play centre last weekend and they were all paid for including food etc, the parents did tell us before hand that parents would have to pay to get in which I thought was fair enough because it was a lot of extra cost for them (fiver per parent and me and my H both went) so I didn't mind that.
14/05/2013 at 16:15
I'd pay for a sibling in a heartbeat if I had to take both children along for lack of childcare but most people here invite siblings too and cover the cost of that.
Belle- No the mum is British and dad french which shocked me more. I don't think they are short of money. They live in our building and she drives a great big Land Rover, he drives a Porche Cayenne and have a full time live in maid... Unless something has happened or they've got all these material things and no money left to spend at the end of each month. It's still odd!
I'm so glad it wasn't just me
Agree with everyone else, what a cheek
14/05/2013 at 16:18
Do you know any of the other parents who's kids are invited and see what they say/think?
14/05/2013 at 16:19
MossyE- Going to assume the whole class have been asked so I plan to speak to the other mums that I'm close to and see what they make of it.
14/05/2013 at 16:20
I am shocked that they would even ask! I think you are right to decline, I would do the same as a matter of principle
14/05/2013 at 16:23
Send a gift with an invoice for it!
14/05/2013 at 16:25
Send a gift with an invoice for it!
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