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10/07/2013 at 15:46
we have a childminder Mondays and Tuesdays when I work but other than that its just us, occasionally sil will have Isaac on a Sunday morning to
let h take L swimming as he has to go in
the pool with him.
i get quite miffed that I don't have the luxury of dropping the kids off somewhere for an hour or if I'm running late for preschool pick up then I couldn't phone anyone. I mentioned previously that at the dentist and having smears there tends to be little eyes watching
does anyone else have totally no help at all?
Im a bit woe is me as have d&v (felt rough this morning, thought id too much wine last night but its progressed )and trying to be ill and wrestle Isaac from doing god knows what is just horrific what I'd give to call up family and drop tthem off (see I wouldn't even expect them to pick them up )
10/07/2013 at 15:48
I hear ya sista!
No help here - although I do have a very helpful and thankfully self employed husband plus a 16yo. My sister would help but Louie is scared of her and the girls - don't ask! - and the lovely Curly Wurly is always there if we need her but day to day living and help, nope just us.
10/07/2013 at 15:50
My Mum has had C every Saturday, all day and over night since he was 2.5 (before that, I lived with her), and she has started having J on Saturdays too.
If I want to go out on a week day evening, my Dad will come and baby sit, and if I need to go somewhere in the day, my Mum will have J.
10/07/2013 at 15:52
My cousin was here last night from Scotland, she has a 15 year old who said that she will come down in the summer and babysit but I need to take her to max from the wanteds house if I wasn't ill I'd be tracking him down
A friend at work says it gets easier when they go to school as other parents help out and u help them, hopefully I could tie a d&v bug into whenever they are out at friends houses
10/07/2013 at 15:54
My mum will have the children whilst we're working. If H and I want a night out we used to ask my sister to babysit, but she's got her hands full with her own daughter now. I would also be able to ask H's grandparents or my grandparents, but we're aware that they're getting older now, and now that there's two children it's harder for them, and i don't expect them to have them for much above an hour. My best friend (children's godparents) will have them if H and i want a night out. But tbh, i can't remember when we last had a night out. It was definately before we went away in May.
10/07/2013 at 15:55
O ak how lovely!
I do find it quite stressful ie at the dentist and worrying that Isaac is going to kick off (take last week for example! They had to give him a scone ), the worst was having a smear and L saying what are u doing? Whilst Isaac looked confused in his buggy
I know we're really lucky to have my parents living close by and willing to have C when we need them to, and ILs aren't too far away (45 min drive) and will babysit the odd evening. I try not to ask any of them too much else I'd feel I'm taking advantage of them.
10/07/2013 at 15:56
We get no help either, except nursery when I'm working. Thankfully I work shifts and husband can do occasional work from home. It's tough when you have appts etc and especially when you feel ill.
10/07/2013 at 15:59
I'm the same as you cherry pie - mine have always gone to nursery for the days that I'm in work and the rest of the time, it's me or OH.
I met a couple of the mums from school in a shop one evening and they looked shocked to see me as I was on my own! I always have my little gang with me.
10/07/2013 at 16:01
I have my mum, my neighbour and my sister. H's mum would have him an odd time, we don't ask though
10/07/2013 at 16:06
We won't have wny help, as non of our family live near enough.
10/07/2013 at 17:46
cherry piedoes anyone else have totally no help at all?
And no OH to help out either!
The only time I have been out of the house past about 7pm was last Saturday for the first time in over a year by taking the kids with me to a party.
10/07/2013 at 18:59
I have no help either despite asking my inlaws if they wanted to help with childcare. They said no to us but yes to my bil and his wife. Long story. I have H and me. I don't even like my inlaws babysitting anymore as they are too soft with D. The last couple of times we went out D was still awake at nearly midnight. Guess who has to get up early when she does?!!!
My parents would definitely help us but they live 500 miles away so impractical really.
10/07/2013 at 19:10
Daisy I'd count the babysitting as help tbh. You are still getting out iyswim (or have you put a stop to them baby sitting now since you have issues?)
10/07/2013 at 20:01
On a day to day basis we have no help. I'm a SAHM so don't need childcare as such but I've had the odd medical appointment where H has had to take time off to look after F. If we have a night out or something then we do have a couple of family members we can ask but we don't go out that often. My H has been unable to walk for the past 7 weeks (fell and had to have op on ankle) with maybe another 6 weeks or so before he can really get about on his own and I've not had one offer of help from my mum I don't think.
10/07/2013 at 20:39
We are extremely lucky as we both work full time but I am home based with my job and my mom comes every day to look after the boys I am on hand to help out too my eldest is in preschool and I take him and pick him up every day. If we go out for a meal we all go as I wouldn't want to ask my mom to baby sit as well as everything she does. Although she would and has done for us on the odd occasion. My in laws would baby sit if we asked but I'd rather not... That's a whole long story
10/07/2013 at 20:46
After school club three days a week.
My parents live not far and help with babysitting. Both sets of grandparents are having our daughter to stay over the summer holidays. Which is really helping us out.
We have got friends among the other parents at school who will help out. When I was ill last year my friend had my girl round to play/tea. It helps if you know some SAHMs as they can generally be more flexible and have yours round at short notice.
10/07/2013 at 20:48
I have the nanny on the days I am at work but she works for another family when I am not working so she can't help me the rest of the week.
10/07/2013 at 20:50
They used to babysit once in a blue moon as it was. But yes we don't go out at all now as I don't want them babysitting again. Not for a while anyway. My mum is down soon to help while my H is working away so may get some time with H then when he comes home for the weekends.
10/07/2013 at 21:08
My folks do loads for us during the week (school pick ups, have A twice a week) so it's rare we go out of a weekend just the two of us as I hate to ask them to do anymore.
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