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22/05/2013 at 09:31
Kids rule the roost?
I am really laid back., the kids can do pretty much whatever they want providing its safe and wont cause damage - within reason obviously! I dont mind mess whilst they are playing but they have to tidy up after themselves. I dont mind dirt providing they learn to clean themselves! I'm quite easy going, but I get stressed out about getting them to school on time etc.
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22/05/2013 at 09:36
Crap at the moment. I've been in a real cant be bothered mode since being pregnant. I know I need to change after baby is born, it will be hard as C is quite demanding in some ways.
I'm strict, too much so, I know I need to give him a bit more freedom and have a bit more of his own mind. We aren't busy enough, he does two afternoons at nursery, we visit the odd friend but I could really do more.
I'm pretty gutted with myself at the lack of effort of late, I think I've been demotivated since living with the in laws, no excuse, but he always wants to be with his man and whilst being exhausted from this pregnancy I've been happy to let it go.
I need to enough play more as C is extremely focused on learning, and I feel he is missing out on things because of this and his obsession with letters and numbers!!
22/05/2013 at 09:45
I'm very easy going. Anything goes in my house as long as he's safe and happy. He asks for something he tends to get it. Happy L makes for a happy house.
22/05/2013 at 09:50
I think I'm pretty relaxed in some ways but not in others. Like Belle, if the kids ask for something/to do something they usually can (within reason).
Although E might disagree with regards to things like playing out, she is always in before her friends (who are older than her) and I'm always checking up on where she is and what she is doing while the kids she plays with can roam the streets for hours and hours with their parents not knowing where they are or who they are with but to me that's not being strict, that's making sure she is safe and not causing trouble somewhere.
22/05/2013 at 09:53
I am laid back with them. It takes a lot to stress me out.
My Mum was strict when I was growing up, and I swore I wouldn't be like that. I have a friendship, as well as a Mother/Son relationship with my kids, especially with C. We have a laugh, and have a lot of banter.
22/05/2013 at 09:54
At the moment I've lapsed in most areas of cooking and discipline. Cleanliness remains high on the agenda. Stimulating activities rank pretty low, not something I'm proud of but I'm not that good at it. I just prefer low level - walks at the beach, feeding the ducks etc.
I'm living with mum so I tend to go for the easy option. Once I'm in my own place I'm hoping to take a bit more control, it's going to be horrendous when I do but with everything thats happened I'm not beating myself up.
22/05/2013 at 10:20
I think I'm strict, I pull them up on please and thank yous, they eat their meals at the table and L will bring his plate in the kitchen, if he gets toys out he has to tidy them away, I run round mad with them in the park and join in games etc
22/05/2013 at 10:26
I am strict with things like manners and I like teaching him to be independent rather than get me to do everything for him. He can make mess and that's fine as long as he tidies up - or at least helps me tidy it up. Like beez said I prefer low key stuff like parks, walks, picnics etc. I have no qualms about playing football with him in the park and racing him (gets him moving when he's being a bugger about leaving somewhere!). I'm not pushy with formal learning at all but just this week I have doing some easy reception 'work' with him because of his obsession with numbers and he has shown interest himself in learning to read and write so thought I'd gently encourage him as he loves doing it. I don't want to be the kind of mum he is scared of (maybe a little haha) but I feel we have a friendship as well as mother son relationship.
22/05/2013 at 10:32
I'm strict, P is really good so doesn't get pulled but that's also down to when he was younger he was taught what goes. I like to keep them close and I'm a worrier. I'm fun though, I do a lot with them, full days playing and picnicking in the park are my speciality. I tell them I love them all the time.
I think I can expect too much from P sometimes though and I think I've started nagging and I didn't used to. I really want to stop this, I can't wait till half term to have some laid back time with him and make a mends in my eyes.
22/05/2013 at 10:43
Kids rule the roost?
All of the above, though I like to think I'm more relaxed than anything. O is being a bit of a menace at the moment so I feel like I'm shouting at him loads, but I do let him get on with it as long as he's safe and happy.
22/05/2013 at 11:18
I'm not really sure. I'm probably more relaxed than strict. I'm quite strict about bedtime routine and I think this works for us as they are all brilliant sleepers. I'm quite relaxed about what they eat - they can have plenty of treats i.e. biscuits/choc as long as they eat lots of fruit/veg too. In the house they can do pretty much what they like as long as it's not dangerous and I make them help tidy up afterwards. I am hard on them with please and thank yous mainly because my elder 2 are rubbish at remembering to say please and thank you all the time.
22/05/2013 at 11:27
At only 10 months in I am still working out what sort of parent I am.
I think I will be strict over somethings, we alreaddy practising thankyou please etc when passing or recieving things from disco. Also When he is old enough he will help tidy his toys etc up.
I am also silly I will happily play dress up when he is old enough should he want to 9in all honesty I am itching to have a dressing up box to play with). At present we are fairly baby led which works for a relaxed mum and a happy baby. To start with I was trying to be perfect get him napping have a routine etc run the house it was rubbish I was miserabe so was he.
22/05/2013 at 11:31
Quite relaxed I'd say, I don't like rudeness or lack of manners. The kids rule the roost, as in the toys are everywhere, until a certain time then they go away and its quiet! (Normally around the start of hollyoaks
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