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27/10/2009 at 22:31
Im in a huge quandry, i really have NO idea what to do!
We are currently in a small 2 bed terrace, we have no room at all, its small, very happy though, space is an issue that only bothers us occasionally! Our gardens tiny aswell, if we had a shed, that would be all wed have!
I live 15mins from my mum and grandma who both cant drive!
We have just been offered a HUGE 3 bedroom, very nice size garden, lovely house basically, would only need a lick of paint for the kids room.
its 1.5hrs from home.
Im in a muddle, basically in 2yrs of being a mum, no matter how hard i try ive not made any good mummy friends, and i get pretty lonely, there are next to no kids groups etc that are on near me, most mean 30mins plus walk and cost a fortune, this is know is very different there. I feel maybe a break from here would be good for us and andrew has said i could pack up and leave should i be unhappy. I cant even guess how id feel, Wed be close to roos family whod visit and keep me company and are always offering help, but i dont know if i can leave my mum charley and tom and my grandma. Or if theyd ever forgive me.
BUT the house is amazing, wed have a better life, if i could drive id go, but i cant, ill learn asap, but i cant decide
someone please help me make a decission!!!!!
All i keep thinking of is this huge house, the living room is larger than my whole downstairs.
28/10/2009 at 11:44
Take the bigger house,without a doubt.The opportunity may never come up again.
You have a car now,you won't be able to see your Mum and the children as often,but you'll still see them.I'm sure you'll be driving soon too,and then the world's your oyster.Maybe you'll see them less,but you'll have space for sleepovers,maybe they can pop to you for the weekend or the other way round,it doesn't mean you'll never see them.
Space is always going to be an issue,it'll be worse as the children get older,especially being boy/girl.There may not be another chance of a move for a long time.
I understand your worries,but you'll find all those things again when you move.
I can only say we have always lived in a home too small for us,waiting for that move until just a few months ago.It's such a relief ,having enough room,a house that works for you and above all it being a forever house,where your not just living till you find a better offer.
From what you've said of your Mum,I'm sure she'll miss you terribly,but she'd understand it was good for you.It'll mean you lose a little support I suppose,but maybe these are the things that make you stronger.
Hope something of that helps.Would hate to see you miss an opportunity.
Sorry very one sided
28/10/2009 at 14:32
I see what you mean a difficult decision to make, but I think I would go with the bigger house and more room. You may find more mummy friends in your new area too.
Good luck with your decision making.
28/10/2009 at 16:03
I agree-take the bigger house. We are stuck in a really small 2-bed house, wit all three kids (somehow!) stuffed in the smallest room in the place! So if it was me, Id definately go for it! It will be hard moving from your mum and your grandma but Im sure that they would understand why you were moving and be all for it.
A chance like this might not come up again, and if its got all the room that you would need, what more could you ask for?
Good luck with your decision.
28/10/2009 at 17:51
I guess you just have to weigh up the pros and cons of a move and then follow your heart/gut instinct. Moving to a new area would give you no choice but to jump in with two feet on the making Mummy friends and joining groups etc which could prove to be really good for you and theres nothing like a good old change in my book!. x
28/10/2009 at 20:49
i spoke to my mum, she said her first thought was no please dont and then she saw how good it is for us, and that she can stay with us and wed come back to stay here, as often as possible, and plus with the internet and phones no one seems miles away anymore,
I was 90% sure of going yesterday, today im upto 98% lol, need to tell my grandma, that will be hell, my kids are her world, but she only works 3nights a week so she could stay as often as shed like, andrew has said hed come and get her. I know there will be tears and ill be really upset, this is the only place ive known, and only my 2nd home, but i just keep thinking of christmas and having a dining room, and all that space for there new toys,
PILs have even offered to help pay for intensive driving so i wouldnt feel trapped, theyve even said they will go in and decorate the kids rooms and re-fit the bathroom for us.
(just realised i hadnt said its there house, , dopey) anyway theyve been running a pub a while and decided to live there and knew we need to move so its ours for the taking, theyll leave all carpets blinds and even there 6mnth old huge range cooker.
Im really excited and feel a bit tearful at the same time, i know we need to jump in and take this, because if it fails we can come home, if it doesnt we wont have the what if's? Just the thought of giving lola a room and jack will have a garden big enough for a coupe car, which he lusts after, is just amazing.
And now my mums said go for it, i feel i can, wish me luck girls, this is huge!
28/10/2009 at 22:05
hi like said am really excited for you
28/10/2009 at 22:06
28/10/2009 at 22:57
28/10/2009 at 23:15
Moving house is sad too,even if it's something you really want.It's your first home as a family.It's where you were pregnant,and where you brought your babies home too.It's full of memories,and packing up feels sad,but once you're moved in,you really don't look back.
You're moving as a family now,it's different to leaving your Mum's.
You'll make new friends when you get there,with kids and without.
Just think of all that space,and a lovely garden too.
Excited for you now
28/10/2009 at 23:25
I know ill be fine, im just a soppy person, its just a building, everything that makes it a home comes with us.
Really tempted to go and buy jack that coupe car hes been after forever!
29/10/2009 at 09:04
I'm sure Father Christmas'll put it on his list.
A house is more than just the building,it's your home,but so will the new pace be your home too.Once you're in there,and all your stuff's in.
I can't wait for our first Christmas in our new house,there's all that to look forward to too in just a few weeks.
When will it all happen?
29/10/2009 at 23:59
first week of december!!!
Ill have a huge range cooker and a dining room, a DINING ROOM!!!!
And theres a proper fire place and everything, im excited now.
Finally told my grandma, was a bit tough, but shes said shes happy if we are, not long now!
30/10/2009 at 21:00
30/10/2009 at 21:46
the cookers lush, its less than a year old too! pretty much the whole house has been re done in the past 12mnths so nothing to do but paint jack and lolas rooms.
never had a dining room not even in any of my familys houses, well one did for about 6mnths then it was a play room, so a real novelty to me, and especially a nice wipe clean floor. will be VERY handy with the munchkins!
Also need some mummy opinions.
We have two highchairs, getting rid of one cuz its just rubbish, any advice for a good booster seat? Or another highchair a better idea, we have a booster seat already thats fab but we dont want both kids on chairs all the time iyswim so we can have people round and also we tend to keep it in the car.
30/10/2009 at 22:34
I've got a plastic 1 that Tom sits on-think it was a tesco job TBH,not an expensive one,straps to chair like a carry about 1. We were thinking bout putting Jc in 1 soon,but that really is last 'babyish' thing-then I officially have 2 toddlers
How did that happen?!!!! So quickly!!!!
Saw a good 1 in mothercare Lau,think it was yellow. Have a butchers on the website.
30/10/2009 at 22:55
30/10/2009 at 22:57
i think i almost have two toddlers
I had to shut the gate because of lola today, not jack, i was a bit little madam can pick open the fridge and just eats anything and everything she can reach, now she can stand she can devour the whole contents!
Where has my baby gone??
31/10/2009 at 21:04
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