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20/10/2009 at 14:33
20/10/2009 at 21:50
Lola didnt sleep unless she was rocked or in a sling for nearly 7mnths, what worked for us was,
A dummy, her comforter that id slept with, a sleep posistioner so she felt cuddled and white noise or nature sounds (frogs bugs sounds) It worked in a week and shes slept 14hrs a night since!
jack has to have a dummy, a taggie blanket which he has to have every finger through a tag before he nods off, his classical lullaby cd on and the same night night baby book every night!
20/10/2009 at 23:32
My eldest was very unsettled so my Mum suggested the wrapping with the next.It's worked with all of them.I feed them in the sheet,this and the raggy(muslin)pick up the familiar smell and feel to settle baby.They don't need wrapping tight,just enough to make them secure.
Merlin loves his sheet,I put him in that,give him the raggy,put him in his cot ,he's asleep.We've done that from the first day out of hospital,and have had very little trouble sleeping at night
22/10/2009 at 21:25
I wish I had some great advice for sleep as Harry was a really terrible sleeper, I BF and I was never quite sure if hungry or needed to settle especially in the early days so always fed him, eventually he became dependent on me feeding him to go to sleep.
I then went on a sleep management workshop with our HV. They explained to us why children wake frequently in the night and cant go back to sleep.... i/e if the go to sleep being rocked, sung to fed when they wake breifly in the night (as we all do but as adults we usually roll over go back to sleep), they wake think where is my rocking, singing, feeding etc & think they need that to go back to sleep. To enable them to sleep well they have to be able to settle them selves off to sleep in the first place.
I couldnt face the controlled crying as per the contented baby author leaving them for longer and longer periods of crying on their own. I read a book by Andrea Grace which offered similar advice as the HV workshop.
Always follow the same sleep routine so your baby knows what is coming, when you do finally put them to bed tehy should be put in the cot awake and allowed to fall alseep there, kiss the goodnight and leave the room, if they start to cry, go into the room sooth them breifly by rubbing back/tummy etc keeping eye contact and talking to a minimum. Dont stay in the room til they fall asleep leave the room as soon as they are calm, if they continue to cry, wait two minutes go back in, and repeat the process til they fall asleep, i think this is a much gentler version of controlled crying as they know you are always there and dont feel scared or lonely, you only leave them for 2 mins at a time, they are more likely tobe crying because they are tired and fraustrated, First few nights I offered water during the night in case of thirst as he was used to getting breast milk during the night...... I followed this process with Harry, the first night he woke frequently the second night much less within the week he was sleeping through the night and we havent reallylooked back, he now knows how to settle himself (although we still have nights he likes to moan more than cry we still follow the same kind of routine).
There is another process of gradual withdrawal for parents that cant face this where you sit in the room with them but dont interact with them just be there and gradually move to the door and out of the room into the hall and eventually you dont need to be there but this process is slower.
Its hard to listen to you child cry I didnt think i could do it but I did. Its not recommended you do this until babies are six months old and are being weaned so you kow they are not hungry during the night.
I do believe that swaddling does help younger babies but I coudlnt get the hang of it and Harry always wriggled out of it.....
Well done Jo with Merlin, if I have any more I think I will try that and hope it works from a younger age.
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