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11/03/2013 at 10:54
Although I do 5 days a week atm I'm home by 5pm so have a few hours with L, cook dinner, do bit of housework, play games, potter about, do bath & bedtime. In two weeks I start my new job and won't be home til gone 7pm. He will have been bathed & fed, practically ready for bed by the time I get in. I'm going to have to make sure weekends are super fun!
How do you cope working long hours and not seeing your babies for long?
11/03/2013 at 10:59
I only work part time, but Thurs and Fri are long days for me - I have to drop the kids at my mum's by 7am, so literally chuck their slippers and dressing gowns on and put them in the car half asleep, and sometimes don't get home until nearly 7, by which time, like L, they are ready for bed. It's only 2 days of that for me, and some weeks is a lot better. The kids are fine about it because they don't really know any different, and they look forward to having hot chocolate and biscuits in bed with granny first thing in the mornings (that gets them there....), which we never do at home.
It must be harder doing it every day, but I'm sure you will get used to it and get into the new routine.
11/03/2013 at 11:03
Aw how sweet, I'd love hot chocolate and biscuits in bed too!
I know it's a case of just getting used to it, finding a new routine etc. And H will be having L Mondays & Tuesdays so he is getting extra parent time with him which will do them both the world of good. I just know I'm really going to miss those couple of hours.
11/03/2013 at 11:13
Yes you will, but as you say, I bet you concentrate more fun time together at the weekends, and really lovely for L to be getting lots of daddy time. And you will have a lovely new job that you deserve.
11/03/2013 at 11:34
You know, I condense my hours and get in about 6.45 mon-weds, home at 5 on a Thurs and off on a Friday.
Organisation is the key I think lovely
11/03/2013 at 11:35
I work 9.30 - 5.30 every day, I do get to do the school run in the morning but I get home at 6.30 so really only an hour before bedtime. I make sure that when I get home I focus on the girls entirely and when they are in bed I then have my dinner etc.. I am lucky as my husband picks them up from school everyday so they are at home with him, homework done, fed, bathed etc so I just really have to come in and give cuddles, listen to their news from the day and take them to bed. It is hard but again it is something that you will get used to. I live for the weekends :-)
11/03/2013 at 11:42
MrsMM that's going to be me, live for the weekends and do super fun stuff. I'll even have to get over my hatred of soft play!
11/03/2013 at 11:46
I always make sure that L and I do something together (usually a Friday), we either go to the cafe. cinema, softplay, for a toy. They are our days x
11/03/2013 at 11:52
We tend to do that most weekends as it is Fi.
11/03/2013 at 11:54
OH well, that's good then. I don't do anything hardly with L on an evening
11/03/2013 at 11:57
I also work full time compressed hours so 5 days into 4. I work Mon and Tue 7.30 - 5.15 and Thurs and Fri 7.30 to 4.15 The longer days are hard but I worked it so that my mum and dad and my H are the ones looking after them then.
We only have one day a week as a four (a saturday) so that is the day we go to the swimming, out for lunch, drive places etc and we really emphasise the fun of that day. It is hard not seeing them very much at all on the days at work but I know they are doing fun things and are safe and happy. Once you are in the swing of it, you will be fine and the older he gets the longer he will stay up!
11/03/2013 at 11:58
ATM we don't really as it's so dark and cold, so we sit play games, watch TV, read, play camps - god he loves building a camp - he helps with dinner then it's bath and bedtime really. He probably won't even notice that I'm not there!
11/03/2013 at 12:02
No, he prob won't, they adapt really well anyway.
11/03/2013 at 13:13
AT I want to make sure we do fun things he will enjoy as well as us iyswim? We socialise alot at weekends, go cinema, park, pub, shopping - I'll ditch the shoping for soft play, go bowling & swimming in the warmer weather. I'll have to sort out an Asda deliveryv too, don't want to have to go shopping on a Sunday morning
11/03/2013 at 13:18
I do that sometimes, other times I go on my way home through the week. My shop is ony 5 mins drive away, so sometimes I will go up on a weekend
11/03/2013 at 13:31
this is already stresing me out. When i go back to work it'll have to be full time hours over 4 days for us to sort out childcare. So i'll be leaving early and getting home late. I'm dreading seeing so little of the baby.
11/03/2013 at 21:25
I only work part time but do long days for two of them. I leave just at 7am and get home at 7pm. This morning I saw my daughter for 5 minutes and she was in bed asleep this evening. It is hard sometimes. But she does get to see more of her dad than I think I did at her age during the week.
I think just make sure you give him your attention. It isn't necessarily about doing lots of "stuff" its doing things together that counts. At L's age my daughter used to love helping with bits of the housework. Now when she could be more use she won't!
11/03/2013 at 21:36
I'm away with work again today. I can go away Monday morning and not be home for anything from a day to a whole week. We are fortunate that MIL has the kids 2 days a week and my mum picks them up another day. I do get to work from home sometimes as well. It's hard but you soon get in the swing of it. I find fitting things like Iz's homework (reading) really hard.
11/03/2013 at 21:40
We have to leave at 7.20 on a morning and then I get B at about 5 and pick up U. We then have tea and the kids are in bed by 6.30. On a Thursday and a Friday I pick them up from Ex at 6.30 and bring them home to bed. So we live for Saturdays. The problem is they are knackered and I can't decide whether to take them some where fun/interesting so that we have done something or just stay at home to let them chill. B complains that he doesn't get to play with his toys which tbh he rarely does - he doesn't have time during the week so he just has Saturday to spend at home. I just never know what to do. I do miss my kids.
11/03/2013 at 22:14
I work 5 short days ( to give 4 days equivalent) means I can do a am or pm school run each day. I do often work late though (demands of job). Being organised for following day once kids are in bed and getting shopping delivered helps. I try and make time at weekends to not rush to get up/dressed/out as that is what the kids dislike during the week. Weekends where possible are relaxed, pottering about for one day and out somewhere the other.
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