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04/08/2014 at 22:12
This post on FB just makes me despair
05/08/2014 at 07:53
I don't know but it isn't good. It feels like so many people on the FB page are angry themselves and discipline coming from a point of anger is never good. I would want to know why the child is behaving like that, it looks like he is crying out to get his Mum's attention. There have been times when our child is behaving as we would like in public. and my heart goes out to any parent whose child is misbehaving, there go I but for the grace of God. It is also sad that so many people only method of disciplining a child would be to hit them, how can it be right for someone bigger to hit someone smaller and more vonurabe, violence has a tendency to beget violence.
05/08/2014 at 08:10
To be honest, I think the lack of discipline in some children is why there is such a problem with respect these days. I don't think smacking a child for the sake of it, or because the parent is angry is right, but I do think there are times when negative reinforcement is needed. At that child's age, you would expect him to know how to behave in public. However, you don't know if this child has a condition that makes him lash out like that. I'd be inclined to think that is the more likely case here.
05/08/2014 at 08:53
In my opinion there are other methods you can use to discipline a child other than smacking. I do believe that children need to have clear boundaries. We have a range of methods we use, including praising positive behaviour and ignoring bad behaviour, using time out, withdrawal of priviledges such as playing on the Wii, withdrawal of toys, sending to room. When son was younger we used a reward chart which worked well. I want my child to respect me but not out of fear, I also want him to know I love him and feel secure in that love and to love me in return. My son is not perfect but he does respect me and those in authority and has a clear understanding of right and wrong.
05/08/2014 at 09:58
There are different methods you can use, and I for one intend to raise our son without physical punishment. But as a child i was smacked for misbehaving, and it didn't have a detrimental effect on me or my relationship with my parents. I guess for me, I don't see the big deal in smacking as a form of punishment as it was just part of growing up for me, and I certainly wouldn't judge a parent for doing it.
05/08/2014 at 21:33
I just know when I feel like giving C a smack I realise I've lost it, I've lost control of myself. I'd rather ignore her, maybe that's damaging mentally though. You just never know as a parent whether you're doing the right thing.
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