Short version - very attractive man on dating site, status as looking for a relationship and said he is looking for someone to make him smile again. I messaged him and said what makes you smile and he replied blowjob. I replied rotfl. Would you do dirty talk with him or not? I just have no idea on the etiquette I'm more than happy to dirty talk but usually with someone I know

Do you then want to go on to meet him or are you just passing the time? If it was me I would maybe try and have a laugh until I had met him but have absolutely no idea really how these things usually work. What did you ever decide on for your name on these sites? If you can say ...

I think I have before but I never instigated it.. Just teased..

Was that the first sort of contact?? If so pretty strong!

First instinct is NO!

My first instinct was no but I am fecking bored and overly sex starved I can't imaginbe meeting him if I do talk surty with him tonight. When I was a young teen I used to write pornagraphic letters to soldiers!

How the heck did you get into writing porno lettesr to soldiers?!

catarina

How the heck did you get into writing porno lettesr to soldiers?!

If you put teenage me next to current me, you wouldn't guess we were related let alone the same person. I was very highly sexed and also literate It was a glossy magazine which I think was called Sky but could be telling lies which had adverts for penpals in the back. I would lie about my age and tell them I was 18 and send them very dirty letters and I got lots of letters back. I only stopped when I realised my mum was opening my bank statements and knew she had either read the letters already or certainly would do soon. One of them proposed to me. I met up woth him and he thought at the stage I was 21 but I was 16/17 by that stage.

WCS!! How?

I am actually shocked QI!  

I am bemused at who I once was... I was written about on toilet walls as giving the best blowjob in xxx town! Dear lord! And then I became monogamous for 15 years!

QI I love the soldiers story!  

I don't think I'd dirty talk with someone just for the hell of it.  But if you are just looking for a chat with someone (and he doesnt sound like the kind of person you'd want to go on and date anyway!) then go for it

what happened about the guy you were going to go on a date with?  

WE - which one? If it is the one I didn't fancy I didn't go because I didn't want to mislead him although I could always chaneg my mind I guess!

haha love it!  the one that didnt want children I think?

weekender

haha love it!  the one that didnt want children I think?

Yes that's the one. I just felt it was wrong to give him encouragement after he was so eager. I didn't want to give him flase hope but I may chaneg my mind because as someone said it's just a date not marriage

heck, go for it!  As they say it's just a date!

QI, it sounds like your teenage self would have got on swimmingly with my teenage self.

Before I met my H, i'd talk/flirt with blokes online. One of those blokes actually became one of my best friends, and even came to my wedding.

Bit of harmless fun never hurt anyone.

Where were you last night AK when I cou;dn't decide whether to do it or not?

If in doubt, JFDI. Thats what I live by.

I agree with AK that a bit of harmless fun never hurt anyone but personally I wouldn't do it.  It's a bit seedy for my liking unless it was someone I knew.  I'd rather do it face to face where I knew I'd get something out of it at the end.

If I lived by JFDI I'd have an exceptionally different life now! Not always in a positive way.