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13/03/2013 at 19:16
Oscar only goes to her one day a week. Since the start of the year she's let us down about 5 times. Usually because her Lo is ill but a couple of times she's been ill. Today she text at 6am to say she couldn't have O because she's been up all night with sickness. We were really stressing, H can sometimes be flexible but couldn't take today off as he has an important week at work. I work 2 days a week as a nanny so for me to take a day off is difficult, obviously one day is a chunk out of my working week, and there's no one to cover me! Luckily today my mum stepped in to look after him, but she had to take a days holiday from her job to do so.
There's other stuff too. O's been unhappy there lately, don't know why, could be due to teething etc, he has had a run of being a bit poorly. But one thing that bothers me is that my CM has her SIL to help her too, and Oscar really doesn't like this woman. I don't know why, it makes me wonder obviously . (It might be her son, he hits O quite a lot, but I worry if O retaliates, then this SIL is going to be cross with O rather than her son because she'll be on her sons side, iyswim?) I found out Oscar gets left with the SIL, when my cm goes on school runs. (I knew when we met our CM that her SIL helped her, I didn't realise how much).
Oh, and one of the times the cm cancelled due to her LO being poorly (she said she was REALLY poorly) I saw them next day at soft play. Which peed me off a bit.
I do like the CM , she is lovely and when my H was in hospital/ recovering she did extra days for us. But I wonder about her commitment to the job and the other stuff mentioned above. I'm not sure if I'll just have similar problems with another childminder.
Sorry if that was rambly, advice please!
13/03/2013 at 19:22
I've no direct experience of CMs but certainly the ones I know locally are far more reliable than that. If the SIL is helping her out, is she CRBd and registered etc? I have to say from what you've said I'd be looking at other options.
13/03/2013 at 19:27
Yes I'd look for someone else! I take it the sil is also registered and crb checked?
13/03/2013 at 19:28
yes the SIL is crb'd and a registered cm. she works as a childminder from my cm's house. not sure how it works with numbers, my mum says when she picks O up its always really busy there, O is the youngest and it seems a bit much for him. I don't really know if its an ongoing thing or not.
13/03/2013 at 19:29
My response was going to be very similar to Margot's. What are her Ofsted reprots like? (I fecking hate OFsted but it can give a hint I guess)
13/03/2013 at 19:32
Personally I would look else where! I can't believe she's so unreliable and I wouldn't be happy with that.
13/03/2013 at 19:35
Yes I would as you need reliability
13/03/2013 at 20:04
Yes, I definitely would look for someone else
13/03/2013 at 20:13
I don't know what her Ofsted reports are like. She registered last summer and has only recently been inspected. We chose her based on other things.
13/03/2013 at 21:02
She has let you down 5 times this year and he goes once a week?
So out of 11 weeks, she has not had O 5 times?
I'd definately be looking elsewhere for that reason alone.
13/03/2013 at 22:19
I'd look elsewhere too. Are you definite on a childminder? Just thinking a nursery is less likely to let you down than a childminder
13/03/2013 at 22:42
Exactly what 1stbaby said. There's no way I could cope with that level of being let down.
14/03/2013 at 07:40
For me the biggest point I wouldn't be happy about is the fact that you LO doesn't like the SIL, even though she isn't his cm I wouldn't be at all happy about the cm leaving him with SIL. With immediate effect I would stop the cm if my LO wasn't happy. Are you able to take him with you when you do your child minding?
14/03/2013 at 13:09
I can't really take him- my boss specifically wants a one-to-one nanny and I do a lot of batch cooking and stuff for her.. I don't know that I could do it with 2 of them! Its a long day as well, I work 8-6 it would be a long day for O.
I haven't really considered a nursery.. isn't it more expensive? There's a big registration fee isn't there? I liked the idea of a childminder originally because I like him being in a home environment with a couple of other LOs. Maybe now he's bigger a nursery would suit him. But again, if there's a big registration fee we couldn't afford it.
I am going to see another cm this afternoon
14/03/2013 at 13:48
Have you thought about becoming a CM yourself? You could have O with you and look after one or two others yourself.
14/03/2013 at 13:59
I like doing my two days really, I get paid well for it and then the rest of the week is mine. I'd have to work more hours to make the same money if I childminded and then I have to consider Elliott as well and school runs , holidays etc . It might be something I could consider in the future though if things are still difficult with childcare. Oh, its so hard! I feel so guilty about O being unhappy at the cm's. :-(
14/03/2013 at 15:36
I think it was a £50 registration fee at our nursery, although currently they aren't charging one, must be spaces they want filled. Worth asking around to see how they compare price wise and what they provide.
Hope you get on well with CM this afternoon x
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