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21/11/2013 at 21:29
I've not been around for a long time, but could do with some perspective from some 'outsiders' please.
A is 7 and is in year three, just in the juniors. Since September she has had a few run ins with a class mate. I've spoken informally to the head and to her teaching assistant to check that the issues were being dealt with. In one day A had been punched in the face, friend one had been kicked, friend two had been hit around the head with a lunch box. I was happy that the school had dealt with it.
A has been told to stay away and have nothing to do with this child.
Yesterday she was in tears because this child was asking A if she wanted to come to her party. A said to me that she was upset because she DOES want to go to the party, but that she thought I wouldn't let her go.
Tonight, she tells me that this girl has told her that A isn't invited, but that if she brings a really good snack to school and hands it over, she can come to the party.
I've had enough. I was ready to call the mum and let her know what's been going on this week, I'd want to know and if it was my daughter she wouldn't be having a party. But this made A cry more, saying she didn't want the girl to know that she had told me and that I had told her mum.
H thinks its not that big a deal. I want to squash the little s**t.
We've told A that she will not be going to the party either way, and that we'll do something special that day instead.
21/11/2013 at 21:41
Long time no see giddy.
The child sounds delightful. It's awful when they aren't happy at school. I would be speaking to the teacher again to tell her what has been going on. How well do you know this girl's mother? I would approach her if you think she would take it on board and speak to her daughter. Just explain that A had told you and that she was upset and ask her to have a word with her daughter.
21/11/2013 at 21:54
How horrible for you and your daughter. I would speak to the teacher again about it.
21/11/2013 at 21:55
oh she's an absolute pleasure.
I know the mum well enough to have a word. Whether she'll take it on board or not, I'm not sure. Apparently she thought all of the incidents above were 'fifty fifty' with the other children involved. They were not.
thanks for your input x
21/11/2013 at 21:56
Thanks yo yo. I will. sigh.
21/11/2013 at 22:01
My son has just turned 4 and is at preschool for mornings, he came home today and said that one of the older boys in reception took a toy off him and pushed him, my son is a big boy for his age and I just hope he doesn't get picked on. I don't know exactly what happened as I only know what he told me but I will mention it to his teacher in the morning.
Hope it gets sorted for you x
21/11/2013 at 22:15
If you don't think she will take it on board then I would speak to the teacher and ask her to have a word with the mother.
21/11/2013 at 23:57
oh how horrible, poor A, I'm with you on the "squash the little s**t" train of thought!
With my professional hat on though, I'd say speak to the teacher as soon as you can and ask her to talk to the other mother (she might, she might not, depends on the situation as she perceives it/other info she has on said child and family etc, this isn't always, and often isn't, as clear cut as it first seems).
21/11/2013 at 23:58
Also, I know you didn't ask for opinions on this part, but I think you've handled it really well with A, and said just the right things re not going to the party but doing something else lovely :)
22/11/2013 at 09:12
Oh God Giddy how awful for A. Bullying is one of my biggest fears. I was picked on through Primary and Secondary then stupidly became a bully with one girl before I got a clip round the ears from my mother and realised what I was doing.
Poor L has been picked on at nursery and he's not even 4 yet. It breaks my heart.
Anyway I would be speaking to the school again and also as you know the mother I'd be having words with her too. Not confrontational but maybe mention her child has invited A as long as she hands over a snack in school - see what he reaction to that is.
I hope A is OK. Poor mite x
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