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06/12/2012 at 15:43
MIL has sent me a Christmas card and inside it says 'Always in our thoughts' - which has pissed me off, because I feel if I am in their thoughts it is to *** about me.
She said a number of things that were upsetting after ex left and then repeated his lies about me to other people including my Dad. Now fair play she believes what her son has said but some of those things I can't believe she thought they were true, but even if she did I feel it was wrong of her to repeat them.
Now how do I play it? Send her a Christmas card, send her a Christmas card and a letter stating how I feel or nothing her.
ETA It really fecks me off that she plays this holyily than thou attitude and turn the other cheek and she is full of hypocrisy.
06/12/2012 at 15:45
I'd send her a Christmas card from the children and forget about it xx
I was about to suggest the same as WS, send one from the children and nothing else.
06/12/2012 at 17:48
Could b & u make her one and I'd just send that. Also wtf 'always in our thoughts' have you died and we all didnt realise??
06/12/2012 at 19:10
What CP said!
06/12/2012 at 19:50
Right I'll send them cards from the kids.
That comment? Well I am basically dead to them so it makes sense...
06/12/2012 at 19:54
After many stressful times caused by my ex and his parents I totally sympathise, I would also just send them a card from the children and leave it at that-anything more is not worth your time or upset xx
06/12/2012 at 20:24
Send them nothing, if your ex wants them to have a card from the children then he can make the necessary arrangements to sit down and make them with them!!!!! What a weird comment to make!
06/12/2012 at 20:31
What are you meant to say? 'thanks'. What a stupid thing to say to you. I'd send a card from the kids, but that's it.
06/12/2012 at 20:55
What Louise Said.
06/12/2012 at 22:26
I know she's stirred the s**t in the past but I read the comment as a kind remark as in time has passed and she has perhaps calmed down and now thinks of you regularly in a good way (not sure I'm explaining myself very well). She will always be your ex MIL but she will also always be your children's grandmother and maybe she's just realised it isn't worth keeping up the hatred. I'd still send her a card from the kids but personally I would also sign it from you. It is a Christmas card nothing more. If you don't sign it she gets a negative view of you reinforced.
Not trying to be controversial just offering a different point of view. If you don't feel comfortable putting your name in don't but also don't make it more than it needs to be. Xxx
07/12/2012 at 08:47
TBH KK that's what I was goign to do originally but then thought I wonder if she actually understands why I'm not in contact with her IYSWIM? Maybe she justs thinks that I'm doing it for no reason other than spite whereas I was very upset by her behaviour.
07/12/2012 at 09:39
I'd get the kids to make one and then sign it from the three of you. I know why it makes you uncomfortable but I'd rise above it.
07/12/2012 at 11:54
EWPipS. You have come through this whole year with your head held high - keep it up through Christmas as well. You know we're all on your side xx
07/12/2012 at 12:00
I agree with Pip and KK. Take the moral high ground and send a card from the three of you.
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