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29/11/2012 at 21:55
Has anyone else had this? We're trying not to go mad this year as baby on way, I'm not working, etc etc and to stop us going crazy put £10 budget for everyone. For parents and grandparents I bought nice big hamper boxes and will fill with kilner jars and bags of homemade goodies. Fine I thought. A lot of hard work but ok. H spoke to SIL and she's paying for a race day for their dad, £200. Man do I feel shite. I know this is my problem and not hers, but I feel so bad and can't explain properly why? If we had that kind of money I wouldn't spend that much so don't know what my issue is exactly, except that I feel inadequate in some way. Maybe sad we can't afford it I don't know?
29/11/2012 at 21:59
not sad at all, your present has a lot of thought and effort into it. I find the cost of things very overrated. I would much prefer to receive a gift of handmade goodies that someone had took the trouble to make for me. I know handmade is not everyones cup of tea but if you think all your relatives would like them then don't feel disheartened. As they say, it's the thought that counts.
29/11/2012 at 22:01
We are in the same broke boat. It looks like my hours are going to be cut going into Christmas, which is really scary stuff. My Dad's present came from a £1 shop and my nephews and niece are getting cheap selection boxes.
Don't focus on the cost. I know it's easier said than done but think of the reactions and joy your family are going to get out of that moment of peace with cuppa and a homemade biscuit knowing the care and thought that went into it.
29/11/2012 at 22:05
It's usually us that are the "big spenders" in Mr GBs family. This year I'm feeling a bit worried about how much it's all costing, it all seems to be coming from savings. My Mam goes way over board with Christmas presents so it's the "norm" to me to spend. Having said that, I tried to do it on a like for like basis. Like the BIL & SIL who spend about £10 on us (some years I didn't even get a present), but Mr GB would always say we should spend £40-50 on them. Pee'd me off one year when his Dad labelled us "the rich ones" when it transpired he asked the BIL for a £9 present and us one for £25 (more the attitude of him and what people thought of us than the cost of the present. I'd have spent more on him)
I've always made sure I could buy what I wanted whatever else we were saving for.
29/11/2012 at 23:11
I'm feeling it this year.
We're considered the "rich ones", due to what car we have, and what I spend on my boys for Christmas. What they don't realise, is that despite H earning a decent wage, we have high outgoings, and I buy throughout the year for my kids, not in 1 big lump.
Everyone has been great, as they know how much money H's ex stings us for each month, but I still feel bad that I can't spoil everyone as much as I usually do.
30/11/2012 at 09:56
We never spend stupid money at Christmas. Max £30 on family including H. Thus year we are being even more frugal. We usually do 'something to open' rather than a massive gift. It suits. Phoebe however has been spoiled. It's more about the food in my family :-)
30/11/2012 at 10:09
I think people expect us to spend more as we both have good jobs and no kids etc but we are saving for a house and still have lots of outgoings! I've spent more on my neice and nephews this year and my bro and SIL are getting handmade bits. IL's will be lucky to recirve anything, but will probably get them a token gift. I'm mean tho and do regift things I've been brought through the year that I don't like! Xx
30/11/2012 at 11:17
No matter what the price of the gift, it truly is the thought that counts. Whats to say they prefer the more expensive gift?
We spend what we can afford and have really cut back. H's family have the impression we have loads of money, but this year they'll get a shock when they realise we haven't gone mad at all - in fact I have so much less to wrap its brilliant!!!
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