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20/11/2013 at 04:21
My BIL is in the throw’s of planning to propose to his girlfriend which is all very exciting!
You all kindly shared your stories with me a few weeks ago of your actual engagements and suggestions which was a great help as I think he now has a plan forming albeit needing little more work but we are now talking about rings...
Ideally he would like to choose one for her and have it ready to propose with, so my question is:
If your H choose your ring did he get it ‘right’?
If not what would you have changed?
Even if you chose the ring yourself please share your storey of how you chose your ring, what stood out about it to you?
Love a bit of romance on a Wednesday morning J
I know this is a very personal thing and different for all but he is getting all worked up about it and wanting to make it perfect so little bits of advice/ peoples experience is always helpful.
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20/11/2013 at 06:25
We chose my together. After he proposed on holiday when we got back we went diamond shopping. It was great, we had a fab time together choosing something. I had a diamond cluster ring with 9 diamonds in. It's not a round cluster of diamonds but like a diamond shape cluster. It now sits lovely next to my wedding ring. I personally loved how we went together to choose it, I think it would have been hard for him to choose on his own as there is so much choice and I also think it can depend on your hand shape. We brought ours from the jewellery quarter in Birmingham so loads of choice. We buy all our jewellery from there as you get more for your money.
the one we chose just stood out of me in the cabinet eBen though it was surrounded by so many other diamonds
20/11/2013 at 07:58
Awww he sounds so romantic!
My H chose my ring & I dislike it but how could I tell him that?! It was about £400 from H Samuel. Teeniest sprinkling of princes cut diamonds when all I've ever wanted is a solitaire. Bearing in mind I was 22 when we got engaged and it was early 2000s my style has changed. He chose for the style then not a classic. I don't wear it at all.
20/11/2013 at 08:13
My h is crap at buying presents. For a good 3 months before I pointed out the type I loved and he picked the one I have which I love (he thinks he picked it himself )
20/11/2013 at 08:14
Oh no Belle, that is a shame. My friend 's fiance chose her ring and alothough she liked it she didn't love it, she has secretly got it restyled to more of what she wanted. It is not a dramatic difference (stone the same, different setting) and he has not noticed and sure he never will lol
Yep BIL is an old romantic at heart, think he thought he would never find that special someone and is just so happy. All very sweet and lovely. He is totally lost on all this though, and keeps asking me but of course everyone has their own views/ tastes so good to come on here and read others experiences to help advise.
20/11/2013 at 08:39
My engagement was a complete surprise (although I was hoping it might happen soon at the time), and my H chose the ring himself. His parents own a jewellery shop (he now works there, but didn't at the time), so had quite a bit of help choosing the ring, making sure it was a good quality diamond rather than just a big stone. Fortunately he knew I wasn't keen on yellow gold, and chose a platinum ring, with a solitaire diamond - I love my ring and don't think I could have chosen better myself.
20/11/2013 at 08:41
I've spoken to a jeweller about getting mine re set but he said the money that would cost we may as well just invest in a new ring. In other words it's crap lol
Can he speak to any of her friends or family to get an idea on what she would like? What type of metal and cut of stone plus what stone I mean she might prefer a sapphire like Kate Middleton. How gorg is that ring? Alternatively he proposes and they go and get it designed together. Still romantic but he can't go wrong there can he
20/11/2013 at 08:48
H chose mine and it's perfect. It's white gold with a princess cut diamond and exactly what I'd've chosen for myself, although I'm not into jewellery at all and barely wear any so he probably did better than I would've done!
20/11/2013 at 08:56
Number 1 - He chose it. It had 3 diamonds. 1 to represent me, 1 to represent him, and the one in the middle (biggest of the three) was to represent C. I really disliked it. I was 18, and it just seemed too "fuddy duddy". Was a total surprise, he proposed on Christmas Day, when I was holding C for the second time. Was infront of nurses and other parents, was mortified. As I was holding the baby, I couldn't see my ring for ages, was gutted when I did see it. I never wore it. It was a cheapo £300 jobby from HSamuels.
Number 2 - I chose it, after we got engaged. Free reign with budget, and him not being bothered about me picking my own ring, meant I got a gorgeous ring. 1 carat diamond, with diamonds half way around the band.
Number 3 - I never got an engagement ring, until J's second birthday. We'd been married around 19 months by then. I only got it, as the replacement wedding ring I liked was part of a "bridal set", I don't wear the "ER", I don't like it. The ring I want is £45,000... H says "one day"
White gold rings, each time.
20/11/2013 at 09:00
My H didn't choose mine, he had been thinking about proposing but hadn't actually planned anything and ended up blurting it out over a meal so there was no ring ha ha. I chose mine, a lovely white gold solitaire.
He did however buy my eternity ring but had already checked with the jewelers that it could be returned because he thought I would like to choose my own but still wanted one to present on Christmas Day - needless to say it went back and I chose one 3 times the price lol.
20/11/2013 at 09:10
Already checked with him and he would like to choose the ring and have there to 'present' at that moment. He also want to keep it a total surprise so does not want to ask any family, I think I am 'that' person that he is running everything by. He normally has good taste though so think he will do well.
Good to hear that for most of you whose H did choose you were happy :)
20/11/2013 at 09:11
H chose mine, and although it's probably not what I would have picked I do like it. Personally i'd have picked a square cut diamond, but H chose a cluster, from a distance if you squint it looks a bit like a solitare.
He had it from a 2nd hand jewellers, but I think originally it's a H Samuels ring. The first couple of years I wore it the diamonds kept falling out, so on one of our turkey holidays I had all the settings redone and **touch wood** it's been good ever since. It's white gold, and it needs re-doing, so i'll get that done when we're in turkey next year as it's so much cheaper out there.
As for our engagement story, H proposed on Christmas day in Disney's Hollywood studios. It was supposed to be by the Castle in Disneyworld, but the theme park was packed and so we didn't end up stopping. It was a lovely proposal, and although not completely unexpected, it was still nice.
The actual ring is like this one
But the diamonds are set like this one
20/11/2013 at 09:20
My H proposed with a temporary ring, which looked like a 'proper' engagement ring and then we chose my actual ring together. I love my ring, but it's a solitaire set with 4 claws which means that it can be a bit fragile and needs to be reset/checked regularly, roughly every year.Sorry if it's huge
20/11/2013 at 10:17
I had mine made in Hatton Garden in London , we chose the stone together, princess cut solitaire and then had it set into a platinum band. I love it.
20/11/2013 at 11:04
Katiebelle, that is a good idea. I could suggest that BIL buys the stone so he has something to propose with and then they go and choose the setting together?
20/11/2013 at 11:42
we chose mine together, it was a simple solitaire diamond on a white gold band
after 2 months of wearing it my finger blistered and was so sore i couldn't wear it, it turned out i was allergic to rhodium that they coat the white gold in to stop it tarnishing.
we then had to go and pick a ring shank without a stone, and then have my stone moved from the bad ring to my new ring. technically iv had two. but after wearing my original ring for 2 months i chose something completely different when i chose my new ring . im hard to please though !
20/11/2013 at 12:04
We booked our wedding before being officially engaged with ring etc...he had the ring already and knew I wanted platinum with a rectangular diamond and that's what I got. It's beautiful and I love it xx
20/11/2013 at 13:28
I chose mine with H after he had proposed. I dragged him around every jewellers in town before going back to buy the first one I'd tried on.
I wouldn't have wanted him to just choose me one so I am glad that we did it together. It was a lot of money so good to have something that I like wearing.
20/11/2013 at 19:02
H proposed without one as he was worried I wouldn't like what he chose. We have different styles but he has always chosen clothes I like so I think he would have managed. And to be honest i would have preferred him to buy one and propose with it. But we'd never discussed engagement rings so he wouldn't have had a clue really. I wanted to get a ring straight after the proposal but it took me several weeks to actually get him to a jewellers so i went on my own and picked one i liked. by the time H did come with me that one had been sold! so i pointed out three i liked and he vetoed one but said the others he liked. so i chose my favourite from those. it was second hand, I wanted one with history, simple yellow gold with a large diamond, flanked by two smaller ones either side. The setting is a little unusual as they are set ona slight twist, hard to explain, but suited his tradition style and my not like anyone else's wish.
20/11/2013 at 21:44
H chose mine. We'd been together 6 years and it was a surprise so I'm glad he did. He knew my taste quite well though, knew it couldn't be yellow gold (it's platinum) and had to be relatively small and simple - it's a plain solitaire with quite a thin band. I didn't have a set idea of what I'd like, just a general idea, so it was fine. If there'd been something specific I'd set my heart on it's unlikely he'd have guessed without very clear hints
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