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19/03/2014 at 11:33
What are your 3 top choices/decisions you've made in your life so far? What are you most pleased about/proud of?
19/03/2014 at 11:35
Choosing to keep my surprise baby even though many told me I was making a big mistake (I was 19), giving up smoking, getting qualified in my profession whilst parenting & working.
Those are things I regularly feel warm/positive about. How about you? :)
19/03/2014 at 12:05
Mine would have to be..
choosing to go on a volunteer placement abroad for 3 months. It was the most amazing experience of my life and I met a girl who is now a lifelong best friend. That was 10 years ago and I regularly look back on what a great decision it was.
deciding on the university I went to as I wouldn't have met H otherwise. The place is now my favourite place in the world amd I miss it hugely, but its a place that will always stay in my heart
...and not giving up on persuing my H. Lots of friends said he wasn't worth it (he was older, in a position of authority etc), but I said I wasn't ready to give up on him, and 2 months later we were together and we've never looked back. I'm so glad I trusted my instincts amd ignored one particular friend who wasn't very supportive (who has now fallen off the radar!)
19/03/2014 at 12:11
Great post Nenas, made me smile :)
19/03/2014 at 12:33
CounterChoosing to keep my surprise baby even though many told me I was making a big mistake
This is one of mine too. My own nan said I should get rid, as "no 17 year old is capable of looking after a baby properly". I am glad I ignored people like her, and am very proud of the boy I have raised.
Teaching myself to crochet. OK, it's not a massive life skill or anything, but it has meant that I can do my bit to help other prem babies, just like others helped C when he was in SCBU.
Talking to the lonely looking girl in the sixth form common room. That girl became my best friend.
Less than 2 years after meeting, she was the only one of my "friends" that supported me when I found out I was pg. (even my "best friend" of 14 years ditched me), she was there with wine and chocolate when I found out my fiancé had sh@gged my sis, 2 months before our wedding. She was there when I had my mc, and was a massive support when I became pregnant again, even though she'd love kids, and sadly can't have them. She was there to see me get married (one of only 4 guests, 2 of whom were my 2 boys), and has been nothing but amazing. I love her.
We've been friends for about 11/12 years now, and I would be lost without her.
19/03/2014 at 13:03
1 - like you, getting qualified in the same profession as you, while working.
2 - splitting with my ex. He was ok, non-offensive but it wasn't going anywhere and his lack of direction in life drove me mad.
3 - deciding to move to the other side of the country for a new job. I wouldn't have met my H otherwise
The first decision, led to the second and both led to the third.
19/03/2014 at 13:27
1 - Giving up a rather boring job to go back to Uni at 24, it meants a delay in starting a family but was so worth it.
2 - Inviting somebody who was feeling a bit miserable to come out with me and my mates on New Years Eve - this led to me meeting H.
3 - I made a decision a year ago to take a new full time job and put my girls in full time nursery. I *think* this has been one of my best decisions yet, but I'm still not 100% sure.
19/03/2014 at 20:55
1 oddly enough one of my best decisions was not to go to uni! It wouldn't have been right for me with where I was mentally at the time, and there was immense pressure to go from my friends and family. I am proud that I've still managed to get a good job without a qualification.
2 getting back together with my boyfriend who I'd split up with for a year. We weren't going anywhere as a couple so I ended it. We got back together and five years later we are happily married :)
3 inviting my previously estranged school friends to my wedding. I agonised over it fir ages as we hadn't met up regularly for years but once I sent the invites, we all started hanging out more and have been so much closer ever since. They mean the world to me.
19/03/2014 at 23:12
Thanks ladies, I am loving the replies :)
20/03/2014 at 07:22
For me going to uni changed my life. I was a scared 19 year old who barely said boo and I moved 4hours away from home, to a city where I knew no one, away from all my friends and family and my boyfriend at the time, because I was determined to do the course I wanted, and it was the only one in the country. I cried everyday until Christmas, but got through it and eventually gained more confidence and started to feel that the real me was coming through. This new found confidence led to me travelling the world, an amazing career and generally opening myself up to new opportunities, no matter how scared I was.
Being money savvy has made a huge difference to me. I grew up knowing my mum struggled financially, and though I never went without I know she did. From a young age I've saved. I came out of uni with only my student loan to pay off, which is now paid off and the only other debt I have is my mortgage. I got myself on the property ladder at 23 and H and I are in a good financial position.
Making the decision at 27 that I was ready to meet my husband and then doing everything I could to meet new men. Seems silly but taking a bit more of a practical look at my love life rather than the chance plan of 'ill meet someone someday ' led to me meeting my H, and I don't think out paths would have crossed otherwise. And he is amazing. I can't imagine my life without him. It's been hard this last 18 months but at no point have I wavered in my love for him or doubted his for me. It seems silly and fluffy but I do think I'm blessed to be with him.
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