Its a difficult process to go through and everyone is different. As far as i am aware you are not eligible if either of you has a child, not just because you have been on a list but its def worth ringing your local clinic now to ask their criteria because you may have written off having a child for no reason.
I can understand the fact your sister didnt conceive putting you off but that doesnt mean you wont
We are self funding because i have a child and the care and service you get is exactly the same as nhs, the only thing different is the waiting lists.
So DONT give up hope and make some phone calls girl!