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IVF & assisted conceptions
30/10/2014 at 13:33
Hi, i just wondered if anyone had any advice or has been in my situation. My partner and I have been ttc for a little over 18 months now obviously with no success. We have gone to see our GP and have both been given preliminary tests, I had an ultrasound which was all fine and a blood test which showed I am ovulating and my partner has had a SA test which was also fine. We have now been told that because he has children from his previous marriage, that we aren't seen as a "childless couple" and therefore aren't entitled to any further investigation/fertility treatment under the NHS. If we want to go any further we have to fund it ourselves, which our GP said could cost anything up to £15k depending on what is wrong, what medication we need etc. We were absolutely devestated when we found this out and couldn't believe that this could be true. His children are both teenagers. We hardly ever see them because their mother is very difficult and moved them very far away. Plus, as much as I love them, they aren't my children!! I'm a 29 year old woman and of course I want my own children. I just can't explain how upset and frustrated I am by all of this, which then doesn't help with the ttc!! I'm so angry that kids can have kids and peole who can't support kids can have kids and nobody tells them "you're not entitled to children", that would be against their human rights, but because we need help with it we are told we aren't entitled to have children even though we work hard to be able to support a family, own our own home and have waited until the time is right for us to do it. Has anyone else been in this situation? Does anyone know if there is anything we can do to appeal this? I just don't know what to do, £15k for private treatment it just completely out of our reach. Thanks x
30/10/2014 at 14:18
Hi there... This is so sad for you! Its a horrible situation but sadly i'm pretty sure that that is the way it is... I know a little about it from when my sister had IVF last year.
One option that might be worth considering if finances are an issue (which as we know ivf can cost a lot of money unfortunately) is that some private ivf clinics run an 'egg share' scheme where if you are willing to donate some of your eggs after collection (depending on how many you produce), your ivf treatment is either free or greatly reduced in cost. Obviously this isnt for everyone & its something you & your OH would have to think carefully about... But it is an option.
30/10/2014 at 14:29
Wow, this is something definatley worth some consideration. Since my early 20s when a friend of mine's older sister donated some of her eggs I have always thought that this would be something I would love to do to help other women, but wanted to do it after having my own children obviously not knowing at the time I was going to have problems of my own! Thanks so much for this information! x
30/10/2014 at 15:08
You're very welcome! . Good luck lucresia
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