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30/01/2013 at 22:42
31/01/2013 at 16:02
Totally understnad your concerns. Do you have the opportunity to discuss with a midwife before ttc? Maybe arrange through your gp.
I don't know if it is a condition you would definitely or likely have second time around but they could surely guide you better.
14/09/2013 at 13:00
I think if your asking then your not completely sure. YOU need to be completely sure and if your not (by the sounds of it ur not) then ur husband should be supportive and understand your decision.
I had a very traumtic time when i had my ds 3 years ago an i thought id NEVER want another baby and now im 6-8 weeks with my second because i know im ready now.
I ended up suddenly getting eclampsia through my labour (never had pre eclampsia) an it was really serious i was so close to fitting but somehow because my son was os far down i had to push him out myself which luckily took me 40 minutes then i ended up with a very near 3rd degree tear an then i ended up with a severe water infection an had febrile convulsions an my son was born with severe reflux and no one would listen that he wasnt well for 6 weeks! by then he was under a dr in the hospital an on 2 lots of medication an then i ended up with severe post natal depression ended up in my relationship with my sons dad breaking down. My HV was crap at the time an it took me over 3 months to be even seen by someone to put me on medication to start me getting back to normal. So as you can see not a walk in the park and you do definately need to be sure with yourself first, dont be feeling guilty just because your OH wants another baby hun, you wont always be unsure and he should support you through this.
Ok, im not, not worried at all of course i am but they are allowed due to the situation i was in last time but i know im sure i want this baby i just want to make sure i ahve the support and what i need incase anything goes wrong again xxx
I hoep this has helped somewhat xx
14/09/2013 at 13:05
Kind of read your post wrong but if your unsure try getting some info beforehand and then see if having yourself put at ease will help you but if your not 100% sure then maybe wait til you are xx
27/09/2013 at 22:49
13/10/2013 at 09:03
Teapot and Laura that's great advice.
You have to be ready. I think what finally convinced me was that as Teapot says, every pregnancy and labour is different, I will likely need a c section which I can plan for and my want for another baby has gotten so strong that if it came to it, for that baby to be safe I would go through the same experience again.
(NEVER EVER THOUGHT I WOULD SAY THAT!)
There is something in surviving a difficult time that gives you an inner strength and self belief - this you mgiht not feel yet but it will come.
The odds are in our favour with second babies and we also have the knowledge of the support we need after which we can try to set up in advance too. I think it would be worse to have had a good first labour followed by a subsequent complicated one. It would be a bigger knock as you would be expecting the same as the first. Whereas first time you have no idea, no benchmark.
Give yourself plenty of time x
13/10/2013 at 12:02
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