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24/12/2015 at 08:41
i am only 7 weeks pregnant so still very early days, but had my midwife booking in appt yesterday.
i know that I am overweight, and lost a stone and half before coming pregnant (was planning on losing a lot more but it happened sooner than we thought it would). I thought that maybe a water birth wouldn't be possible because of my weight, but the midwife told me I'm high risk so at increased risk of diabetes, pre eclampsia, etc and I have to have extra scans, extra folic acid and consultant involvement. I asked her if they would want to have me monitored throughout labour and she said yes, which I am so upset by as I wanted to be able to move around etc (and water birth and natural as possible was my first choice. I know things may have changed down the line but to be told definitely not at the outset is upsetting)
i know it's still very early days and a lot could change but I just wondered if this has happened to anyone else and how you dealt with it, or even what a 'high risk' pregnancy is like with extra tests, and a high risk labour? I'm upset that I have potentially caused a problem for myself and my unborn baby and it's still early on!
i am 5 foot 2 and 99kg so bmi 40 which is morbidly obese (she even showed me this cartoon picture they use to show people how overweight they are-it was a huge person who was covered in red fat and was sad!lol) has anybody been in the same boat? I'm still attending slimming world which mw says is fine and she doesn't mind if I maintain or lose weight (as I do have it to lose!) but I don't want to put too much pressure on myself especially as I am making a person!
Sorry for loooong post but needed to get it off my chest and any input will be appreciated. Hubby doesn't get it as he thinks all women should be monitored as much as poss to be safe!
Thanks ladies x
24/12/2015 at 10:26
Hello PixieAlice - and congratulations on your pregnancy!
Sounds like you've had a bit of an upsetting time with your midwife - poor you. I know they have to explain things but, sometimes, they just don't say it all as sensitively as they could, do they?
I completely understand how you must be feeling - and there are lots of other women on this forum who'll understand too - and some of them are having or have had high-risk pregnancies just like you. Hopefully, some of them will come along in a wee while to chat to you.
In the meantime, here's a big virtual hug from me!
24/12/2015 at 14:05
Hi pixie Alice, congratulations!!
I am at the other end of the story, I delivered on sunday but so much is similar .. I am 5'5, and bmi of 40, as I was also over 35 ( by six weeks) carrying my sixth baby my m/w was instantly putting me down for consultant care and as high risk.
All high risk essentially means is that you need closer monitoring during pregnancy so don't worry. Thus could just be a xtra m/w appt every now and then
Consultant care is exactly that, you will see a consultant a couple of times usually 28 + 36 weeks to see how you are progressing
They are also always on hand when you deliver - so a midwife led or home birth may not be possible - this however depends on how you go through the pregnancy, a water birth depends on alot of factors, availability at hospital, pain relief you choose, how fast you go thru labour and even if you feel like it at the time ?
I had a couple extra scans to check baby - always nice to see them !
And I stayed on at slimming world too to monitor my weight - I aimed for total gain of standard 28 lbs during pregnancy and managed to keep it at 26 lbs total. . I was checked for gestational diabetes tho, this is only a blood test, a drink an hour or two wait and a repeat blood test so again don't worry ! Most come back fine !!!
Due to my previous children being delivered fast I was given an induction at term +1 but if you have a smooth pregnancy - no reason why you shouldnt by the way - you will be treated same as any other pregnant lady and deliver when you are ready.
I think some m/w put the creeps up you and make you feel so bad but at the end of the day your body is designed to grow a baby, dosnt matter what they say don't let her make you feel bad, just eat healthy, keep moving and enjoy being pregnantx
If you have any questions feel free to ask if I can help I will xx
24/12/2015 at 18:44
Thank you very much busymamm that is helpful and reassuring. Do u mind me asking what your birth was like as high risk? I am worried I'll be stuck to a bed not allowed to move, I wanted to do a hypno birthing/relaxation type things but don't know if that would be possible. im so surprised that I'm high risk, to look at me I really don't think I look morbidly obese! Lol x
24/12/2015 at 20:26
My last 4 have been high risk, if those I've had two perfect textbook deliveries ( albeit a tad quicker than most) my third was 12 hours and delivered fine but I retained the placenta so had to go theatre to have it removed - a risk to anyone having a baby never mind their 5 th!
My last one was an emergency c section, the Dr broke my waters and tried to pop a monitoring clip onto baby's scalp but she moved up and out if the way ending up in a transverse (sideways) position, as she is stubborn and refused to move again I had to have a c section. But again this went textbook, no complications at all.
Just because your classed as high risk, dosnt mean you will have a complication, just that if you did, the delivery team are more prepared to handle it quickly.
Feel free to ask questions I will answer as honestly as I can x
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