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18/09/2012 at 22:26
19/09/2012 at 14:25
27/09/2012 at 19:39
That's really sweet x
16/11/2012 at 17:35
Hey TulipRose, I have a little boy, 14 months old this Sunday and have only just got my head around the idea of baby number 2. Hubby wanted a second baby for ages and I said no following a miserable pregnancy, vomited every couple of minutes during a 13 hour labour and tearing enough to need surgery after giving birth. I was out of it on pain killers for first few days and that meant not bonding with my LO for ages and problems feeding etc. Now my husband has gone off the idea of another baby, I would actually love a second but am still terrified of tearing and spending the first days of my baby's life being away with the fairies. Obviously each person is different and I can't comment on the itching from OC but I did get my dermatitis flare up terribly when preg and only thing that stopped me scratching my skin away was alternating Eurax and my prescription steroid cream - Dermovate ointment. Although my doc certainly wouldn't prescribe me anymore of the stuff whilst pregnant, she did say the risks of getting a skin infection through scratching was higher than risks I was passing to my baby by using the creams. It's your decision on how to manage the complications but I would say having a sympathetic doctor and midwife definitely helped me. I actually switched doctor and midwife towards the end of my pregnancy and it made me feel a million times better about being prodded with needles and going for bloods every other week. I wish you all the best for bubba number 2. Here's to hoping you don't get the same this time around xx (Oh and btw - my little angel was born with the normal limbs and one head - despite the naysayers who said I was harming my infant with steroid creams)
17/11/2012 at 11:52
Although my pregnancy was different to yours Both DH & I said 'NO WAY, NEVER AGAIN' after my 1st birth. Samantha saw me pushing past the point I should have been allowed (they are supposed to call Dr if you push longer than 2hrs) & when I finally delivered her I ended up with a 3rd degree tear & high blood loss. The stitches hurt, I felt drained & overwhelmed for many weeks following focussing on trying to be a good mum but letting my own health suffer in the process. Only when I went out to Baby Weighing Clinics did it occur to me that I didn't need to be supermum & could ask for help & support.
As Samantha got older we started talking more about her being an only child as both DH & I have siblings & they in turn have had more than one child. Both of us had always seen ourselves as a family of 4 meaning we would have to have another pregnancy/birth. We were both nervous of our memories from Samantha's birth but focused on the 'Every Pregnancy is Different' idea as we TTC telling each other that until we tried for no.2 everything was only a 'maybe' not a 'will be'.
Once I fell pregnant with Hannah, our booking in appointment saw us look in depth at my pregnancy with Samantha (we were already seeing differences with me losing weight instead of gaining it & I was bleeding but everything was well if not a tad scary) including the birth & what the chances were of me tearing again/how bad it would be/would I be likely to lose blood again.
It was nervy getting a 2nd BFP & knowing there was no turning back but once you get that BFP you feel calmer & more focused. It will be different this time around because you have 'history' which they will know & monitor as your pregnancy progresses meaning symptoms will be picked up on & treated sooner. They may well discuss elective c-sec with you giving you a chance to be better prepared for when you are going to give birth & how it will happen. Best wishes & good luck with what you decide.
21/02/2013 at 13:31
23/03/2013 at 14:32
Ladies - Thanks for your advice and for sharing what I know are personal and emotional stories.
Munners - I am so glad your pregnancy ended with a healthy baby. How old is you DD now? I felt exactly the same as you at first. I think I am putting the itching into perspective as a temporary thing but I KNOW that it will not feel like that if I get sick again.
I think I am now feeling more accepting and will take things as they come. I initially was putting pressure on myself to have a VBAC but I now see with an IC pregnancy you do not need anymore things to fear (like our awful labour last time).
The cntinual monitoring, consultant appointments, bloods and early delivery and symptoms will be plenty to cope with.
Not sure if you have seen but there is an ICP page on facebook and also a charity called ICP Support UK which is great. Although you do see some sad stories there are plenty of happy endings.
28/06/2013 at 17:17
Hi sorry to be late in replying AGAIN,think I still have baby brain!lol she is nearly 9 months now and doing brilliantly despite a tough start.She must of had a growth spurt just before she was born as she weighed 5'1.Nobody could believe it.
I was very poorly after I had her which is something else that puts me off another baby.My waters broke but the hospital said they hadn't and I was left for 4 days before going into labour and therefore caught an infection which had me on a drip for 4 days after the birth.If I could guarantee I would not have OC in my next pregnancy I would possibly have another but too scared o take the risk.Whenever my skin gets a bit itchy (i.e if its hot) I get taken back to my pregnancy and I know I couldnt go through with it.
Will check out the IC organisation you suggested Although OC is horrendous its nice to speak to somebody that understands what I went through.
29/06/2013 at 07:38
I know what you mean about recovery. We were in for five days and narrowly avoided a blood transfusion but needed rehydration drop an this all made ready feeding very hard but I stuck with it.
for months afterward I caught infection afte infection starting in my incision and moving to mastitis, coughs, colds and numerous sickness bugs. In the en they found I was deficient in vitamin d and a course of pills helped.
Thats why I would prefer to avoid the labour but I understand c section can cause its own issues. Jut not sure i would ever be relaxed enough for a labour after all that.
i hope as you move away from your experience it feels more worth it and you are enjoying our baby girl x
13/10/2013 at 08:57
Well....we have gone and done it regardless.
Got a BFP and due in June 2014. Eek!
Trying not to worry about the delivery and take it a step at a time. I had a m/c last month which has helped to put things into perspective. I sort of feel that 'I did it once, I can do it again and survive' and having a loss seems to make my first labour (my son) all the more precious.
(Oh God pregnancy hormones making me cry typing this! - In for a long 9 months I think!)
26/10/2013 at 21:37
Hey Tuliprose, how are you doing? Hope your spotting has stopped and things are progressing well. you sound very much like me, im trying not to think on the end point of this pregnancy as I will just stress and not enjoy it at all ... like you say, I've done it once, and yes it didn't go to plan (no where near!) but I made it through. I guess my biggest fear is that my traumatic birth led to me being very ill for a long time after and was a major contributing factor to me getting PND and that was the most heartbreaking part off it ... Anyway deep breath, hoping to see if I can get some addition support on this so maybe I can make sure my head is in the right place incase I have to face the same again ... Sorry feel like I'm offloading - the joy of hormones x
26/10/2013 at 21:58
26/10/2013 at 22:18
Yeah I'm feeling better, thank you, think the tummy bug just floored me and I've been slowly picking myself up again. I'm still knackered but the nausea seems somehow more manageable at the minute.
So glad the bleeding stopped and your early scan was very positive - fingers crossed all goes well in two weeks time I'm hoping my scan won't be too far away, the waiting is just so difficult. It still doesn't seem real somehow and I think that scan will make everything hit home.
My DD was a week late, so yes if that happens again and you have an elective then we'll pretty much be bang on the same time ... You might even beat me to it!
hope your clinic appointments go well ... I have my booking in with midwife next week so think i'll have a good chat to her then and try and put some of my daemons to bed (for the time being anyway!) xx
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