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10/10/2016 at 22:18
Hey guys im amy,
im 21weeks pregnant and have a 3 year old already. I had to have an emergency c-section as my little girl was breech. Had a horrible experiene, the man nearly cut me open when i could still feel everything, i had my first walk again after c section without pain killers, kept fainting, nearly got paralized as the nurse jabbed the epidural to far, nearly had her taken from me bcuz i was stressed over not being able to walk around n gt stuff for my baby by myself. It was hectic. Now im scared on if i end up having another c section or v-birth... im weak and if i have a v-birth what would u pick to have as a pain killer besides epidual as i wouldnt go for it again as i now suffer with severe back pain and im only 21 years old... please help ...
11/10/2016 at 11:53
If you have severe back pain I would expect them to suggest an elective c-section (v birth can put added stress upon your back).
As for alternative pain relief - gas & air can work wonders (though not everyone takes to it), a tens machine can ease the pain, pethidine can help you rest more easily (though can also make baby sleepy in some cases), diamorphine will again help you rest.
There is the alternative to epidural which is spinal tap (I know a few people who have preferred this option as needle can be finer going into the spinal fluid & it can take effect faster)
11/10/2016 at 13:33
Thts what i had done (the spinal jab) but thankyou so much for what u just put i didnt know there was so much pain reliefs but just gotta see what will help me n not hurt baby in any way :). The epidural didnt work for me and i ended up having to be put to sleep '-'
even thou i had the best 45mins sleep ever, it did really scare me. Other things pop into my head then likr what if i dont wake bk up or what if baby isnt okay etc. I even watch one born every minute to c what people used and how thhey reacted after having that pain relief... 😊
17/10/2016 at 16:21
I too am pregnant with my second 😊 You sound so stressed!! I know it's hard, especially after having such a terrible experience. But anxiety and stress doesnt help! When we are stressed we release a hormone called cortisol that stops our body from doing what it should. Have you looked into some hypno birthing?
I didn't have a fantastic birth, after 3 days in labour, loads of gas and air and diamorphine (would have this again) I had an epidural that failed (so thankful it did) I did have a vaginal birth and I ripped very badly. But I'd do it all again for my little girl, she's my heart ❤️
I had no idea what to expect and I was really worried- I wasn't relaxed and so neither was the baby. This time around I have knowledge, I know what to expect and I'm going to do the hypnobirthing too. I want to have the most serene birth, I really want to have the baby in water and ive been practising my breathing already!! Birthing yoga is good way of connecting with yourself and calming yourself down. It really helps to feel in control.
I hope you find a way of being able to keep calm, it'll help you so much and the baby too. You can find loads of content on YouTube for self hypnosis, it's brilliant!!
Good luck and remember- your body is able to do more than you think! Xx
17/10/2016 at 16:49
Ive heard about hypno-birth and its meant to be good (obvs being in water is meant to help too.) i do pregnancy yoga nearly evety day, or if not i just cuddle my little one and i calm down. Plus my bf is being very supportive.
u sound like u know what ur doing thankyou for ur message xx
17/10/2016 at 17:31
Hi Amy, im a mum of six soon to be seven - mad i know. All of my births have been natural and I'm very lucky for that, it seems what you went though was alot! I feel like you never can be not scared - I'm still nervous that bubs 7 is due next month. Anything could happen realistically. In 2007 I had a still born, Archie. One of the worst things I've ever been through - weird to think that he could be here today. Honestly I think if you keep yourself calm about it everything will be alright, the worst thing you want to do is get yourself worked up for then nothing. Proud of you as a fellow mother, sounds like you've been through a lot!
- Tez xx
17/10/2016 at 20:56
Oh tez im sorry for you losing little one
:( *cuddles* to think theres mothers who dont deserve to have children (hurting the kids and all) thn the good ones get hurt :/
and thankyou for your support... did u use any relief...? Xx
18/10/2016 at 20:07
im 18 wks pregnant with my second and I also had a bad experience with my first. I had preeclampsia so was an inpatient for about a month before giving birth. At 34 weeks they tried to induce me (didn't work), I had two epidurals that failed and then eventually because my bp skyrocketed and the baby was in distress they did a spinal block (?) and emergency c section. It was all very scary. I'd written a meticulous birth plan (I wanted all natural, aromatherapy, water birth etc etc) and it was the absolute opposite.
So this time around I'm definitely more scared because I know what might happen, and I feel like it's pointless making any plans😩 Part of me wants to just opt for an elective c-section just to avoid all the potential drama...
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