Hi Sym, gosh that sounds hard work i feel for you. I've just got holly my 2 yr old a star chart as she is being awkward at meal times but it also helps with sharing and being a good girl, as we go through the day if she is good we tell her so and that she will get her sticker at the end of the day but if she acts up we tell her that she might not get her sticker so she has to be good - so far its working and we had no issues tonight with her eating up all her tea, and she was super giddy at getting her star. Its certainly worth a try for sharing, lots of luck