RUDE PEOPLE!

10/04/2008 at 23:52

Am i the only one who thinks taht people are sometimes really rude to pregnant women? I can not tell you the number of people who have commented to me "are you sure you are not having twins" and "wow you are huge for only 6 months" and "you are as big as a house" even my doctor told me I was gaining a little too much weight and I should stop eating all the cookies and cake!!!! I have news for him I eat very very healthy and I do pregnancy yoga and walk my dogs 4 miles every day!!! I have gained about 30lbs already and I now weight 154lbs which I dont even consider to be "as big as a house" do other people have to deal with people like this or am I the only lucky one????

Caroline

11/04/2008 at 08:02

I was exactly the same! I was huge, 5ft 3 tall and 5ft 3 round! I had a few people make bad comments but most of them were really positive and supportive! One member of staff at school accused me of constantly eating. I only ever saw him at break and lunchtime which is obviously the only time to eat when you teach!!!

I lost all but 7lb giving birth so I wouldn't worry too much!!! Just enjoy having a bump and being pregnant!

11/04/2008 at 08:26

I know - I have found the same.

After I had my daughter I was pushing her in the pram and someone came up and said 'have you had it yet'. Some people are such idiots.

I hate all the examination you get from other people when you are pregnant. A colleague actually came in and asked me to stand up so she could look at me when I was pg was Jimmers - I started to stand and then said no.

...and as for all the uninvited touching! Grrrr. I have a friend who keeps trying to look/touch (she doesn't have kids) and I keeping telling her that it is my stomach not the baby at the moment.

Some people are just rude and stupid.

marie

11/04/2008 at 19:11

I know what you mean! When I was pregnant with jake, complete strangers came up to me and touch my bump! Some would say that as i put weight around the middle that i'd have a girl, some say i'd have a boy. The doc asked if i'd eaten a packet of cookies a day as i put on 8lb in 2 weeks! I was about 5-6months. Even now when i push jake in pushchai people still rude when going into shops and letting the doors go, I always try and hold onto the door for someone else and handle puschair! AArrrrrggghhhhh!!!
lol. xx

rileysmum

11/04/2008 at 19:23

Jen i no what you mean,my Dr to told me to stop eating all thoes sweets when i hardly ate anything.
It realy upset, i gained 5st during pregnancy and found out why when riley was 3mths that i had an underactive thyroide and it was probably triggered early pregnancy and id gone all that time undiagniosed,it took nearly 2 years to get from 17st dead to the 14st 12lb which i have been at for just over a year now and just cant shift it.

Sorry to go on but i do think people easily missjudge us mums.

Karen

11/04/2008 at 20:14

People are rude whatever weight you out on in pregnancy. I was told by my own sister after giving birth that Hollie didn't look anything like me (looks like her dadi)and because i hardly had a bump she couldn't be mine. Hello, i felt the pain so i know i definately gave birth to her.

Marie i also find people rude when we are out with Hollie, many a time i have had the door slammed on her puschair, yet i struggle with her and hold the door for anyone behind me etc. And the amount of people that walk in front of her pran, or suddenly stop to have a conversation, don't even get me started on that.

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rileysmum

11/04/2008 at 20:17

Oh karen its the same here with walking with riley,people just dont look and tend to walk into him,i have gone nuts once when a bloke walked into him never said sorry and made him cry,i shouted all the way down the street to tell him what a horrible person he was,had to hold my tongue to.

Karen

11/04/2008 at 20:53

I hate the way people treat kids as if they don't matter. That is terrible that he didn't even say sorry. I am sorry to say ot but many of my run ins with rude people have been the elderley, especially those that jump the bus queue grr.

rileysmum

11/04/2008 at 21:02

Oh i hate them ones,i was at the bus stop a while ago when this old frial woman with a stick came along and sat on the bench,it was packed with people anyway but when the bus arrived she ran straight for it,no hesertation,why on earth do they need sticks if they can bloody run.

Karen

11/04/2008 at 21:04

He he that made me laugh.

rileysmum

11/04/2008 at 21:08

I would,i used to ignore the buzzer when i was brestfeeding riley,sometimes if i hadent got the phone to hand id leave that to.Make the lil sods wait.lol

kristy

11/04/2008 at 22:39

it doesn't bother me to much tbh, i get comments, but i don't listen to half of what people say most of the time. i've been bullied all my life and now negitive comments don't mean squat to me. even my hubby said he find it hard to have a pop at me in a fight cos i don't take any of his well thought out insults to heart and they just roll of my back.

Karen

12/04/2008 at 14:36

Emma i ignored them the other night, but they knocked the window then continued knocking the door so i had to answer. And Hollie is so nosey that when she hears the door or phone etc she pulls off and looks round anyway.

Nicolette

13/04/2008 at 15:19

I was lucky and didn't get many negative comments, although someone tried to have a go at me on a bus because I sat down. the man next to me had a go when an older man got on and I didn't stand up. I retorted that I was seven months pregnant and that entitled me to sit down. I don't think he expected me to retaliate. The gent concerned didn't want to sit, even when a seat became free at the next stop.

I am breastfeeding Catalina at the moment and if the door goes I answer it regardless. It is my house and I will do what I want in it. So far I've had abashed postmen refuse to look me in the eye but no one has been rude or unhelpful.

13/04/2008 at 18:37

I had a waitress ask me to go into a back room when breatfeeding Jimmers. I refused and said it was his human right to be fed when he is hungry and eat his food alongside everyone else. She said it was people's human right not be embarrased - I pointed out that they didn't have to look if they found it embarrassing and I had an elderly man give me a cheer!

It made her look like a fool when all the other customers stuck up for me!

clairemumof3

19/04/2008 at 15:49

i used to wear a t shirt that said 'do not touch the bump' on the front. my oldest has aspergers syndrome and will say things without thinking how we do, once we were out and he was on his trike, a old man picked a toy out of josh's trailer and commented on it, josh turned round and said at the top of his voice 'dont you touch my fu*king stuff', he passed comment to me which i just replied asking what gives him the right to touch his things, you wouldnt walk up and go through someones handbag would you?! but they faught a war etc

rileysmum

19/04/2008 at 19:55

Oh dear,but your right,you just wouldnt do a thing like that,40+years ago maybe.
How old was he when you found out he had aspergers.

clairemumof3

20/04/2008 at 09:32

he was 4, took a 2 year battle though. they took notice after 1 week when id only had 4 hours sleep all week, i wentin the doctors and told them if they didnt do something then when i leave i wont take him with me. and believe it or not i know 3 other people who have had to do that to get the doctors to listen. he used to sleep from 2-4 am and that was it! the doctors agreed to give me a strong sedative for him, even phenergan didnt work!

rileysmum

20/04/2008 at 14:40

OMG, cant believe they wouldnt listen.
Its funny when they say use your instint,and when you do they say we are just being silly.

My mum did somehing similar when my sister had her eldest the social refused to pay as she was only 16,my mum said they would leave the baby with them and go,social were so quick on it they got her money and a regular income,that was 10yrs ago now.

Hope his much better with his sleeping now.

funnymummy

11/02/2009 at 15:59

I hate how when you're pregnant you seem to become a one-man petting zoo. And how many people don't move for the buggy. Once i was sitting on a bench in town with the baby in the buggy next to me and some old bloke came and sat down and started smoking, blowing the smoke at the buggy! i just told my partner loudly that we were going to move now 'cause someone was smoking at us. I think before long I'm going to have a go at someone for doing that. People always stare when you breastfeed in public too. I've never been told to go to a breastfeeding cubicle, but if so i will definately refuse, and suggest that whoever made the comment go and eat their lunch in the toilet!

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