please help

Hello there mums, please has any1 got ne tips on their kids starting nursery, my little girl grace started on monday, she cryed from when she got there un til she left and has done this every day 4 the past 3 days, i have never seen any children like this b4.  I think she has got an actual fear, she was even cryin when she went 2 bed sayin she didnt want 2 go. I am not giving up tho, i give her lots of praise i am being so positive and doing all the things i shud b doing. She even nos 2 of the little girls there but stil wont play. PLEASE PLEASE HELP

Oh Sarah,I feel for you. My LO went all smiles Tues,tears today,but they didn't last long,he's 2 and half.

You're right not to give up I'm guessing,there are lots of experienced mums on here and some are nursery nurses or childminders I'm sure they can advise better than me-but I think what you're doing is right. Don't give up,it's hard isn't it?

Hope it gets better asap hun x x bless her little heart x x

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Hi Sarah, 

It's hard and I'm sitting on both sides of the fence.  I am both a parent and a nursery nurse/ manager of 18yrs.  I am afraid that there isn't an easy way out if yr child is tearful, it's about perseverance.  Did you have a settling in period before she started? 

1.  Sometimes it's good to let her have a toy or comfort object from home for her to "look after" or to "look after her". 

2.  She will have a key person in the nursery - when my son was playing up (having attended from 6mths) I would make sure that I went in a little bit later when she started her shift and picked him up slightly earlier for a while. 

3.  Always say goodbye to her and don't disappear as that makes it harder when she realises you're not there.

4.  Try to give her a time when you will be returning ie. teatime or after sleep time, something so that she can relate to (not sure how old she is).

 To be honest very few children cry the whole time, I had one child in a nursery where I worked who told her mum if she took her to nursery she would cry all day and not play with the other children.  She cried when her mum left her and somehow knew to start again about 10mins before her mum arrived - guaranteed she would do it & I know her mum thought we were lying until I took some pics of her playing and eating lunch

It is hard and I never fully appreciated how hard until darling son number 2, who wouldn't even go to my mum much less a stranger  !!!!!

Take care and if it goes on for longer than a couple weeks then maybe reassess the situation.

Aliaj xxx

Hey, thanx for your reply, aliaj, its been about 5 weeks since grace started nursery and i am glad shes settled in now, she cryed for the first 3 days all day then after that she cryed on and off for around 2 n a half weeks, but she did cry 10 mins b4 i was due 2 pick her up.  I found out that just being positve about the whole thing worked, i would say try 2 ignore the crying and tell them its great to go to nursery and tell them what you enjoyed at nursery when you where little.  Tell them that you where a little afraid when you where at nursery then you settled in and had loads of fun with all your friends, but reassure them that you will always pick them up, i also found that someone else takin her was a bit easier after the whole lot of crying. good luck.