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Long term TTC & infertility
11/01/2013 at 17:48
just thought i might try to see if anyone wants to chat a little about the sadness that goes along with long-term ttc.....i am really struggling with it as of late, and it really affects other aspects of my life!
11/01/2013 at 20:56
hi, you replied to one of my posts, and I answered, did you get it? anyway, I have been really down too and lately sabotaging my diet with bad foods
11/01/2013 at 22:43
going there next to read....
i have been just not eating right, sleeping right and worst of all, enjoying the odd smoke. bad, i know, but here we are. hubby is noticing, and it's affecting him too, so i hope it will pass soon.
11/01/2013 at 23:07
yeah, you know what? I told him about the article I read and about taking a break from trying and he said "yeah, let's do it, it is stressing me out too even though you don't notice". Guys bottle everything up but he's had some dissapointments in the last couple of years, couldn't become a pilot as he's always dreamt and not being able to become a father is killing him as much as me and I don't want to put him thrpugh this. I am not, but I stress a lot too, so I think Feb will be the lest ttc month, after that I won't chart or check ovulation but will go to the Dr to try to solve my spotting issues. And we'll have as much sex as we want. God is in control. Don't smoke though! That is worse for conceiving. I did give up caffeine and it hasn't been hard but the rest... i still excersice the problem is the emotional eating...
13/01/2013 at 19:15
i know about the smoking thing.....was kind of hoping to find others on this site who were having an issue with this. but, i'm not having any more after today. i just have been resorting to that when i feel stressed. will have to come up with something else....
we'll know more in the next couple of weeks, so we can make some decisions after that about where to go/what to do. i feel i don't have to time to take a break!
13/01/2013 at 19:24
13/01/2013 at 19:35
hopefully we will be doing something different in the coming months.
we were supposed to later last year, but life got in the way. my hubby had a very bad car accident and was off work for a long time, and when he went back it was to a different location and job - in the same company. really misses sometimes his old position. but, they are grooming him for management, so i guess "don't look a gift horse" eh? this caused us to cancel our 1 yr anniversary trip, so we're planning a different one this fall.
we are now just trying to work at cleaning up our acts and further investigating our options for conceiving.
17/01/2013 at 14:08
I've had people tell me to "Cheer up", "Look on the bright side" etc, and seriously, that does not help. You will get there I'm sure, I hope you find the strength you need very soon.
18/01/2013 at 16:34
i know. i am trying. thank you.
seeing my week old niece definitely helped my resolve to get on of my own! she's lovely!
those in a lttc position do not need to hear that there is a bright side, as we cannot see one, but what do people say....? i cannot hear "think positive" without seeing red! i hope we will all find our way there.
18/01/2013 at 17:35
QnBee, how long have you been ttc? what does the dr say?
18/01/2013 at 19:21
18/01/2013 at 22:40
thank you andi. and lucia, i have been off bc for 4 years, and we've been actively trying for 3 of them come february. hence my being a little down about the process. i wasn't on bc for too long, about four years or so.
apparently all is well, according to dr. hubby's levels have fluctuated, but even then, with iui there were enough good "boys" to make success possible. so we are not sure what is going on. i just like being able to vent here, and if someone wants to comment it is appreciated.
18/01/2013 at 23:17
No, of coourse, i totally understand I would be sad too It is a trial we go through like people have to go through other types.
19/01/2013 at 00:53
truly. we just keep trying...i'm hoping that we don't have to go to more expensive means, more so than iui. that would be a greater trial.
21/01/2013 at 16:47
how is everyone doing this week?
21/01/2013 at 17:23
yeah been a rollercoaster day here : ( one minute hopeful the next feel like we should just get it out of our heads and live life, sending virtual hugs to everyone, Janurary is cold and depressing enough hey!
21/01/2013 at 21:43
i know. it is excessively nasty here today. hubby and i are both sick, but i guess it distracts me from the 2ww.
i have also considered giving up on the trying, but i held my week-old niece last week and realized i couldn't give up. so i guess i concentrate on the job hunt, getting all nice and healthy and dealing with anxiety.
21/01/2013 at 22:09
why don;t you guys stop trying but still have sex with no protection? Trust in God, his timing is perfect
21/01/2013 at 22:10
have you used the ovulator predictor kits?
22/01/2013 at 00:58
yes, i have. didn't use any this time around, as we had a lot going on so we were leaving it to the fates. and i had thought i would be at my sister's house, admiring my new niece.
i used the dollar store ones, as i was told they were just as good as the expensive ones. i am now on cd15 - 3dpo. and i was with hubby on my suspected o-day, so i'll try to be a little hopeful....
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