My AF came today after being 2 days late and getting my hopes up because i am never late for my AF for the whole 3 years we have been trying.
Ive tried everything under the sun to get pregnant and it just seems i never get pregnant but the people around me do!
I had a really good cry this morning, and have decided to end this rediculouis dream that i have that obvouisly aint going to happen no matter how many vitamins i buy or obvulation sticks i pee on.
I have suddenly got very angry and bitter towards the whole thing. Its spose to be fun trying for a baby and exciting instead its like living in hell! The upset and the waiting does my head in!
So now ive decided that im giving up and going to start using protection again at lest untill next year january 2012. And ive decided that next year im going to do ALOT of traveling. Ive put my life on hold for 3 years now and now its finally time to live.
Good luck to everyone else i hope you get your BFP soon.
xx

Aw Lu hunny I know how you feel lovely and I have not been trying at long as you.
I have times where iv thought that, as it is so hard when AF arrives and you know that cycle didnt work.
Unfortunately i have no helpful advice as i am still ttc. But maybe you could try not being on any contraception but not ttc just not stopping it from happening. I know thats easier said than done though!!!

I wish i could say something helpful and inspireing but im not very good at that sorta thing.

But i too have decided not to put my life on hold, im just going to do everything i would normally and if i fall pg great but im not putting my life on hold anymore.

Good luck for the future hun, i wish you all the best xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Aw Lu hunny I know how you feel lovely and I have not been trying at long as you. I have times where iv thought that, as it is so hard when AF arrives and you know that cycle didnt work. Unfortunately i have no helpful advice as i am still ttc. But maybe you could try not being on any contraception but not ttc just not stopping it from happening. I know thats easier said than done though!!! I wish i could say something helpful and inspireing but im not very good at that sorta thing. But i too have decided not to put my life on hold, im just going to do everything i would normally and if i fall pg great but im not putting my life on hold anymore. Good luck for the future hun, i wish you all the best xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

How long have you been trying? Its so horrible i hate it .
Yeah im just guna use the 'pull out' as controception lol! The upset when AF comes is not fun at all! I feel completly useless im a women im spose to be able to get pregnant its just so upsetting. Yeah im just guna do my traveling with my fiance and then find our own place and get married and maybe one day a baby will fit in between all off them. If not i could always try IVF but its so expensive if you cant get it for free. It makes me sick that women that struggle have to pay thousands for a child yet the ones that dont want kids get up the duff and ponse child benifits and get them! Instead of paying the women that can have children they shud have it to give women that cant have kids free IVF! Makes me so angry!
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its so easy to get bitter and angry, isn't it? I've been ttc for 2 1/2yrs with 1 m/c. I find myself judging every pregnant woman to see if I think they deserve it. Are they fatter than me, younger than me, slutty, chavvy or on benefits. Its one of the most soul-destroying, personality-changing experience I've been through.

I think its a good idea to take a relaxed view (I keep saying I'm going to do this!!). Enjoy your travelling and your fiance and I'm sure your time will come. Perhaps your baby just wants you to have some stories to tell when they're older? xx

Lu1991 hello there!
im sorry your feeling this way hun xx
can i ask how old you are? if thats you in your piccy then you look young. Me and my hubby started TTC early in our relationship, am 25 now. We've been TTC for over 3 years now and have been prodded/poked and sucked dry of blood to figure out why we cant have a baby!
Its the hardest thing seeing other pregnant women, i find myself seething at them with jealousy! its not a good quality.
Have you had tests etc yet?

i know what you mean about IVF ect, the thought terrifies me xx

i hope you given it some thought and stay with us

Ladies I hope I can give u a little hope...

I wa trying to conceive for 4 years I have mild polycystic ovaries..

I never weed on any sticks and never worked out when I was ovulating as I didn't often ovulate and had very irregular periods so I just had sex about 3 times a week and didn't use protection.

However I did my fair share of pregnancy tests however not obsessively and shed many tears..

Then in February I had sore boobs and had a count and realised I hadn't been on for a while and so I did a test.. Positive..! Currently 16 and half weeks pregant!

So it can happen.. Never loose hope!

Good luck x x

Please don't give up. There is always hope. Have a look on youtube for Carla thebubblelush. Watch her vlogs from the start. She kept me going and gave me hope x

Lu1991 hello there! im sorry your feeling this way hun xx can i ask how old you are? if thats you in your piccy then you look young. Me and my hubby started TTC early in our relationship, am 25 now. We've been TTC for over 3 years now and have been prodded/poked and sucked dry of blood to figure out why we cant have a baby! Its the hardest thing seeing other pregnant women, i find myself seething at them with jealousy! its not a good quality. Have you had tests etc yet? i know what you mean about IVF ect, the thought terrifies me xx i hope you given it some thought and stay with us

Im 20 years old and my fiance is 22 this year. Weve been together 4 years and trying for nearly 3. And yeah weve both had tests and theres nothing wrong with either of us.
So i dont have a clue whats happening tbh. But its destoring our relationship so weve stopped TTC.

Ladies I hope I can give u a little hope... I wa trying to conceive for 4 years I have mild polycystic ovaries.. I never weed on any sticks and never worked out when I was ovulating as I didn't often ovulate and had very irregular periods so I just had sex about 3 times a week and didn't use protection. However I did my fair share of pregnancy tests however not obsessively and shed many tears.. Then in February I had sore boobs and had a count and realised I hadn't been on for a while and so I did a test.. Positive..! Currently 16 and half weeks pregant! So it can happen.. Never loose hope! Good luck x x

Congratulations

How long have you been trying? Its so horrible i hate it . Yeah im just guna use the 'pull out' as controception lol! The upset when AF comes is not fun at all! I feel completly useless im a women im spose to be able to get pregnant its just so upsetting. Yeah im just guna do my traveling with my fiance and then find our own place and get married and maybe one day a baby will fit in between all off them. If not i could always try IVF but its so expensive if you cant get it for free. It makes me sick that women that struggle have to pay thousands for a child yet the ones that dont want kids get up the duff and ponse child benifits and get them! Instead of paying the women that can have children they shud have it to give women that cant have kids free IVF! Makes me so angry! xxxxx
We have been ttc for about 21 months ish i think! Iv lost count!!
I know exactly how you feel, the only thing i can say is that time is on your side as your very young. But im sure that doesnt make you feel any better that its not happening.
Maybe try taking the relax approach like you said dont stop ttc but not actively ttc. I think thats what im going to as iv just finished my second round of clomid and its not worked so feeling a bit low about it all. So am focusing on other things now and just not not trying if that makes sense!!!

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How long have you been trying? Its so horrible i hate it . Yeah im just guna use the 'pull out' as controception lol! The upset when AF comes is not fun at all! I feel completly useless im a women im spose to be able to get pregnant its just so upsetting. Yeah im just guna do my traveling with my fiance and then find our own place and get married and maybe one day a baby will fit in between all off them. If not i could always try IVF but its so expensive if you cant get it for free. It makes me sick that women that struggle have to pay thousands for a child yet the ones that dont want kids get up the duff and ponse child benifits and get them! Instead of paying the women that can have children they shud have it to give women that cant have kids free IVF! Makes me so angry! xxxxx We have been ttc for about 21 months ish i think! Iv lost count!! I know exactly how you feel, the only thing i can say is that time is on your side as your very young. But im sure that doesnt make you feel any better that its not happening. Maybe try taking the relax approach like you said dont stop ttc but not actively ttc. I think thats what im going to as iv just finished my second round of clomid and its not worked so feeling a bit low about it all. So am focusing on other things now and just not not trying if that makes sense!!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Ohh ok, yeah ive kinda lost count but its around nearly 3 years. My mum took 3 years to fall with me and the doctors said that it might just run in the family but i dont really see that myself tbh can you?
Oh right what does Clomid actually do? I was going to go to my GP and ask about it but then i decided against it because now ive defo decided enoughs enough and its time to have a break.
Yeah i know what you mean not actively ttc but its sort of still in your head that you are still in some way kinda trying to fall pregnant so when my AF is like a few days away thats all i think about! Whether im going to come on or if im pregnant it drives me crazy!
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Don't give up Hun! I was the same, tried for 3 years after 3 mc and finally pregnant, I have pcos and natural killer cells so a few things stacked against me, they've found nothing wrong with either of you, it's just a matter of time take care xx