I went in today to find out about the next stage of my tests. We need to do my 21 day bloods again as the timing wasn't correct and she's going to take some swabs, then we'll be referred to a fertility specialist.

She told me how important it is to try and stay relaxed and asked how I'm coping as she knows it's so hard and the tears just came from nowhere...... :cry: She was so lovely and listened as I said I was struggling to get DH to stop drinking following his SA and that I felt my life/career was on hold for no reason.

She said that my best bet was to get a project like decorating so my sole focus isn't 'project baby' and book a holiday if I want a holiday and change jobs if I want to change jobs, that living life in limbo and the stress and pressure that it creates can be what stands in your way of falling pg. If/when it then happens you may need to make adjusments but that's a nice problem to have.... it makes loads of sense!

I'm not going to do anything drastic but now that the Easter chocolate is nearly gone I'm going to focus on diet and fitness again and the house as we are getting some work done and my doggy who I'm training to be a therapy dog... has her assessment tomorrow. Just take my mind off it a bit.... I may be on here a bit less as a result but I'll still log on plenty I'm sure!!

Thanks for all the support and advice thus far, don't know what I'd do without you all.

~OP xx

[Modified by: Orange Pants on 28 April 2009 11:31:28 ]


[Modified by: Orange Pants on 28 April 2009 11:32:27 ]

Hi OP

So glad your doctor was great, it makes such a difference doesn't it! I think she's so right too. I was putting things on hold but then decided life was passing me by, so we went on a couple of great holidays last year and I started a Masters. I could have decided not to go for it in case i got pg, but I'm so glad now I'm doing it - it's so fulfilling and distracting and if I am lucky enough to get pg I can just defer and finish it later.

Lots of luck with all your new plans and hope to see you on here, even if not quite so often.

xxx

Hi OP - good that your Dr sounds great.

And how lovely, a therapy dog!! What a great way to take your mind off things for now. We didn't go on holiday last year because we thought we might not be able to what with injections etc (we quite often like to go long haul and weird!) and we're still here. I would much rather have to cancel a holiday because I was pg than not go and still not be pg, if that makes sense!

I wish someone had put it so clearly to me a year ago.

Keep your chin up - and there is no IF only a WHEN!!

xxx

Thanks Daisy Girl and well done, good for getting on with things and doing so well!!

Mrs Hopeful- It's called PAT 'pets as therapy' I hope she does well because I think we'd both enjoy it.

That makes total sense and I think I need to take that on board. Good luck with everything x

Orange Pants really glad the doctor made you feel better - sometimes it's just good to say what you're feeling out loud.

Sometimes it just does take longer to conceive. Dh and I got our short lived BFP on our 13th month ttc- it was over Christmas and I had been to so many parties I lost count, we even went to 2 weddings. I was so used to AF showing or getting BFNs that my brain couldn't quite make sense of the 2 pink lines when they turned up. It was also the cycle we had our first appt with fertility specialist.

I know I mcd at 5 1/2 wks but this was just 'the roll of the dice' as they explained at EPU.
I know all my bloods are normal and just had lap n dye so tubes etc all ok so, this time round, i.e. round 2 am actually expecting it to take up to a year again. Although try reminding me of that in 6 months when frustration gets the better of me again!!:roll::lol:

Good luck, Kiz xxxxx

Isn't it lovely to get a really understanding helpful doctor , they realy can make you feel things will be fine.

Try and listen to what she's said about projects i spent the most of last year with my life on hold not going on big hols, changing jobs because what if this was the month???

Best of luck hun i'm sure this is the final strtch for you.
xxxxxxxxxxx

It sounds like she was very sympathetic and gave you excellent advice. i hope you manage to find a 'project' to help, and that your dog does well-we used to have PAT dogs come to the ward and the patients loved them.
H.xxx

Hi OP

Glad to hear your doctor was supportive, my doctor is lovely too which is good and makes all the difference!
My 21 day bloods showed I am not oving and we are waiting for hubby's appt to come through for his SA so we will have to be refered to a fertility specialist
I have kind of accepted it won't happen naturally so I am focusing on getting fit aswell and we are going to book a holiday to give us something else to look forward to etc, I am the same and can't keep putting my life on hold!
Good luck and hope you get your BFP soon xx

Hey OP

It absolutely does make sense to try and get on with other projects - I need to sometimes take this advice so will join you in eating healthily - I actually need to drop a few pounds so it certainly won't do me any harm.

I'm also going to book some weekends away and just try to be a bit more positive because I don't know about you but this 'putting my life on hold' really sucks. I am soooooooooooooooover it!!!

Good Luck lovey x

Ah i'm so pleased to hear your appt with the dr went well. It makes such a difference when their understanding and supportive. Hopefully they'll get the ball rolling for you and maybe you'll get your BFP before then xxx

aw OP glad you got a nice dr and probably did you the world of good having a good cry, I was actually thinking about this recently and I can;t really think of any real memories form last year bar ttc, friends having babies and me not the past 3 months I have been out more and trying to not let ttc stand in the way of my life - be under no illusion I still think about it all the time but was deffo nice when I was doing up my bedroom as had another wee focus mmmm think the back bedroom could do with a make over LOL

Good luck with blood re test xx