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Long term TTC & infertility
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08/06/2012 at 16:09
I'm so sorry that you have not got your BFP this month. Sending you my thoughts as I know how hard this is. People will always say that you should feel blessed for having one and people will always ask when you are having more because they do not understand a) the emotional impact of wanting more children but not being able to even though you do feel truly grateful and blessed for having one already and b) that sometimes things just don't happen as you want them to.
We were diagnosed with unexplained secondary infertility, too. We conceived our DS in the second month of trying and following six months of failing to conceive this time around we had blood tests and SA and these came back fine even though we are that bit older this time [I'm 38, DH is 40]. At this time, we were still hopeful.
We tried naturally unsuccessfully [with OPKs and CBFM, vitamin supplements, conception-friendly lubricant ... you name it, we tried it] for another 12 months following this before seeking further tests/assistance [privately as we are not entitled to anything further on the NHS in our area]. A HSG, AMH, further hormone panels and SAs showed that everything was good. I tried acupuncture, hoping that this would help but was told by my acupuncturist that my periods were "textbook" so there was little that he could help with. So we had three IUI's [with Clomid] in the hope that this would bring us our longed-for sibling but again they failed.
We then decided after two years of trying that we would try one last ditch attempt at IVF before moving on as a family of three [as this was all we could afford and I was emotionally at breaking point]. To give us our best chance, I felt that there was one thing that I needed to rule out so I went for immunes testing. I was told by my consultant that sometimes [and they don't know why] a given pregnancy can make you immune to further pregnancies [like having chickenpox prevents you from having chickenpox again]. This kind of made sense to me and lo and behold, my immunes results showed that I have high natural killer cells so I was treated for this prior to and during our IVF attempt.
We are now expecting our second child in just over four weeks. I am not saying that immunes issues are the definitive answer to unexplained secondary infertility. All I am saying is that there are options open to you. Also, I would still not rule out a natural pregnancy either. My consultants always told me we had secondary SUBFERTILITY as they don't consider you as "infertile" until you have been trying for at least two years .... this is because unfortunately sometimes it will just take that long even if all is well.
10/06/2012 at 19:10
Bubblicious, what do you ask for to get the immune tests done and what are they called? can you go to any private clinic to get them done?
congratulations by the way!
11/06/2012 at 15:12
11/06/2012 at 19:41
I've also had my NK cells recently tested and it turns out they are higher then normal. Bubblicious kindly replied to me over on the IVF page. I had a CD69 NK Cells test done and it cost me about £300.00 through a private clinic. I am just about to start my third course of IVF with this new treatment so I can't say if it has worked for me yet but so far it's my only answer. I hope you all fine yours soon.
12/06/2012 at 10:29
ladies, I am getting confused with the jargon - Bubblicious, what are Chicagos?
Tigerlilley, is the test called NK cells? what does it mean?
I just want to know what I need to look for on the internet if I wanted to get an immune test done.
12/06/2012 at 13:42
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