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21/05/2014 at 11:06
At 23 weeks & 5 days my baby boy was born. I already had 3 days in the hospital. When my son was born doctors had said if only i could wait for 2 more days.. Sadly, baby didn't want to wait. My son came out trying to breathe and cry on his own. Doctors were amazed. They knew if he kept being strong he would've been part of a 20% that he would've survived & been perfectly fine. My son past the next day.. His organs were to fragile... Its been 2 months and i can't seem to get any better. i hold my pain in till everyone is asleep till my husband goes to work. since he works night shift. i don't know what else to do. each day it hurts more. i need advice.
How has anyone gotten through this pain? Its horrible!
21/05/2014 at 12:49
21/05/2014 at 12:51
I'm so sorry for your loss hun, a family member lost a baby girl at 30 weeks last year. They now have a beautiful bouncing baby girl born at the beginning of feb. have you had counselling? Holding things in is no good for u chick it might help to talk to someone x
22/05/2014 at 07:17
That's amazing Nicole. i hope she did made it! they say its easier for a female to survive than a male.
& i haven't been to one. i've tried going but i just feel as if all i would do is cry and cry. i just want to feel a bit relaxed.
23/05/2014 at 09:09
I lost my son at 28+2 in September 2012, he lived for 2 days but sadly his lungs were not strong enough to make it through the fight - feels like forever ago, but at the same time feels like it was just yesterday. Hun, if you need to let it out, do, there is not point in holding it in - it will make you feel worse. You need to keep talking to your OH, friends and family - and talk about your baby boy - what was his name? My son was called Dexter. Your wee boy was here, so talk lots about him....keep his memory alive.
Can I recommend a website called Sands - their forum is www.sandsforum.org - they have been a great support for myself and my husband. We've also raised a bit of money for them, just as a way to say thank you.
Some days are good, and some days are bad - mostly good now, but when it first happened I just didn't know what to do with myself. You'll get there hun, I promise, it will never leave you but you will learn how to cope with it each day.
And just to let you know - I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my rainbow baby - its been a hard time getting to this point, but we're almost there, and if thats what you want too - then you just have to believe.
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