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15/05/2012 at 15:53
Hi, I am mum to 2 healthy children (1 boy and 1 girl). However in October 2011 I had a mmc at 12 wks (should have been 15wks), then in April 2012 I had another mmc this time at 15wks (should have been 18wks). The 1st mmc I felt so sick through so thought something was wrong - but the 2nd I was sure it was ok - although I didn't want to get my hopes up.
I just feel so bad for all the women out there who can't have children or haven't yet - as I feel so bad that I lost both these precious angel's - but I have the comfort of having 2 to cuddle in my arms.
Also after having 2 children, I can't understand why this is happening now? Both me and my husband are at the stage that we couldn't go through it again - the pain is too much!
16/05/2012 at 10:11
Sorry for your losses. Have you had any investigations done as to why this has happened? As they are both slightly later losses I would think that if you did decide to try again you might get some specialist help.
We have one child already but are desperate for another, but I keep miscarrying Our daughter does bring a lot of comfort, but I agree it is still awful to lose babies.
Hope you start to feel better soon xx
16/05/2012 at 13:49
Thanks for your reply - and I am so sorry you are having problems too! How old is your daughter? Was she your 1st pregnancy? Are your miscarriages early or later on? Have you had any tests?
I've had no investigations and I guess at the moment we have decided not to try again so we don't see the point. My Gp has said that if we do decide to try again we could speak to someone but I don't think they will do anything until 3mcs.
16/05/2012 at 15:52
I might be wrong in this but I think that if you have had even one 2nd trimester loss then that immediately qualifies for investigation, if you wanted to be tested / were to decide to try again.
Yes our daughter (she's 3) was my first pregnancy, unplanned conception and easiest pregnancy ever! So when we started ttc number 2 I kind of assumed it would be the same. Ha. It took us a year to even conceive again, a pregnancy which I lost in January this year. In total I've had 3 early losses, 8 weeks (twin pregnancy), 5 weeks and 6 weeks, all this year! Feeling a bit disillusioned with the whole process and wondering if we ever will actually have another one. Going to keep trying for a bit longer though. We've been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic now so will see if they can find a reason. My instinct says they won't though, and that it will just be 'one of those things'.
Good luck with any future decisions / investigations xxx
16/05/2012 at 16:58
You have been through a lot in a few months, both emotionally and physically - maybe you should give yourselves alittle time to heal, but only you can decide when you are ready - I really hope it all works out for you. I am normally a person who thinks things happen for a reason - however at the moment I'm doubting that! (Although I hope that feeling returns!)
Well I hope your time comes - feel free to contact me anytime with good or bad news (hopefully not) - I'm glad I came on here - it has been good to talk to someone in a similiar situation.
All the best x
18/05/2012 at 10:52
Hey, I have an almost 3 year old son. I had a mmc before him and have had a natural mc and mmc since him. All mc's were in first trimester. I couldnt go through another pregnancy without knowing there was nothing wrong so I had private tests done which luckily my MIL paid for. My thyroid, progesterone and blood clotting results were all borderline so I am on thyroid tablets, clomid when I TTC and maybe heparin injections. You body goes through so much in labour and with age I am sure things change so I would definitely have some tests done to make sure you are okay. Especially since you have had second trimester mc's that must be awful. Depends on your doc and maybe your age as to whether they give you the tests. I am 36 and my docs offered to give me the blood tests after my last mc but I decided I wanted to go through a specialist clinic. Its worth going to your docs xx
20/05/2012 at 21:38
Hi, I am sorry for your mc's, but I suppose you might be able to be alittle positive that you no there is something you can take that might help.
At the minute we are concentrating on the 2 beautiful children we have which is more than others are lucky enough to have, but I guess if (and its a very big if at the minute) we did TTC again, we might see if there is any tests we could get done. For me at the minute I can't get my head around why this has happened?
Does it just be blood tests or are there alot of internals if you get tested? or does it take long for the results to come back. If you do go private is it very expensive?
Like so may others - If I was told in the morning that they were 100% positive I would have a healthy baby I would try straight away (I know no-one can give that answer unfortunately).
Neither of us could go through that feeling again waiting to see a heartbeat or getting our hopes up when we see one and then to still lose the baby later. The last pregnancy I said from early on that regardless of the outcome I couldn't go through another pregnancy - as I felt it was going to b the longest 9months of my life - lossing the baby again was on my mind everyday and I defo couldn't cope with burying another little baby. x
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