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04/10/2014 at 12:57
I had a very complex mmc earlier in the year that persisted for 10 weeks after diagnosis including failed medical and surgical routes.
found out I was pregnant again in August and had reassurance scans which showed baby developing well with a strong heartbeat then on Thursday night I had a light bleed completely out of the blue - went for scan and found my babies heart had stopped beating a few days before resulting in another mmc.
Due to see consultant on Tuesday to discuss options but am so low at the moment I just don't want to carry on. I don't think I am strong enough to cope with a repeat of earlier this year and definitely don't feel strong enough to try pregnancy again even though I am desperate for another baby.
has anyone else been through something similar?
04/10/2014 at 18:41
hi huni im so sorry to read this,
i have a boy of 2 years and last year i lost 2 in a row,
1st m/c was lost around 6-8 weeks and happened july, then found out i was pregnant again and was over the moon until december i started with a light bled like you, i had already had an early scan and was told baby had a heart beat and was spot of for dates, so was sent for another scan and was told mid december baby was still there but had not grown but his/her heart rate was slowing down, i went back on the 23rd december when i should have been 10-12 weeks and was told baby had died it was what felt like the end of the world for me so was booked in on the 24th of december for a d&c i just couldnt go over the xmas period knowing the baby i had inside of me was no longer living.
this feb i found out i was pregnant again....and im now almost 37 weeks!
i was told that 1 m/c effects loads of ladies each year, then to go on and have another effects a much less percentage of ladies some thing like 3% out of 100, and to go on to have a 3rd in a row after already having a child is very uncommon.
i know it might sound hard at the moment but try and stay strong, its not easy i know....if it wasnt for my son i think it would have been enough to push me over the edge, i cried for days none stop, blamed myself and the whole world but i knew i had to carry on for my son.
im here if you want to talk, i did carry on taking folic acid from the day i had my d&c im not sure if it helped or not to fall again this year but i like to think it helped.
please dont fight this alone we are here to talk when ever you need to xxxxxx
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