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Miscarriage & pregnancy loss
20/05/2014 at 22:24
21/05/2014 at 02:17
im sorry to hear of your loss & that you had such a rough time with it. You absolutely do have a right to be upset... Whatever the circumstances & your feelings about the pregnancy, you have still suffered a loss & been through a traumatic time! Any & every feeling you have is ok... I hope you have someone close you can talk things through with... Talking really does help so much.
21/05/2014 at 12:11
21/05/2014 at 12:48
You're not being selfish... That is an absolutely natural feeling to have & I'm sure if you explained to her that it is difficult for you at the moment she would understand.
honestly though I have talked about my miscarriage a lot so i am in a different position to you. It is hard at first because people in general are not used to having those conversations & they dont know how to respond but i have found it so helpful to just put it all out there & be honest about every thought & emotion I have experienced... Even the ones that i thought even seemed 'silly' or irrational... That doesnt matter as its how you feel & it helps to acknowledge that.
if you really feel that you cant talk to friends or family how about going back to your doctor... They can refer to a bereavement counsellor or i've even heard that some places have specialist midwives who are trained in grief counseling.
hope you start to feel better soon x
21/05/2014 at 12:53
24/05/2014 at 18:11
Sorry for your losses
What your feeling is perfectly natural for someone in your situation.
I am 19 years old and have miscarried 8 times. My last one was last week and mine have always been very early.
Anger and jealousy are all very important parts of grief and even though it feels horrible to think/feel these emotions.
I hope you get better soon (physically and emotionally) x
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