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Miscarriage & pregnancy loss
14/08/2012 at 21:56
15/08/2012 at 12:34
hi i just read your post and know exactly how you feel iv had two miscarriages one at 8weeks and one at 6 weeks. its so hard when one minuet your pregnant the next your not you just feel so empty. i really struggled at first but even tho i still hurt now and think about the babies i lost things are better and i am now 21 weeks pregnant and things are going well i feel very lucky. they say a misscarriage is either your bodies way of saying its not ready or there is something wrong with the baby even though it doesnt make it easier this helped me because i want my baby to be healthy and my body ready to give my baby what it needs. let yourself greive for your baby for as long as you need but even though this will always be with you it will hurt less as time goes on and in the future you will have a happy healthy baby. i hope this helps and i know talking to someone thats been through a misscarriage helps to deal with some of the pain so if you need to talk im here.x
15/08/2012 at 13:40
15/08/2012 at 16:44
Ahh lots of hugs mylittleangel x x
I went for my 16 week check to find no heartbeat, went up to EPU for a scan which showed my babys heart had stopped beating at around 13weeks (just after our 12 week scan they think) so I had what is called a missed miscarriage. This was a month ago now and I felt so deep in my sadness that I really thought I could never feel happy again. But it does ease...
Take time to feel the sadness you need to feel and look after yourself. Your broken heart will slowly heal but it will take time x It is such a heartbreaking thing to go through it really is. It was my first baby too. x x
15/08/2012 at 17:11
15/08/2012 at 17:24
yeah the cruel thing with ours was that we had been to the scan and seen baby wriggling around, and we announced the news to everyone meaning we then had to unannounce it had also began to buy things as it was a missed miscarriage i thought i was 16 weeks so we did a bit of shopping etc.
don't mind you asking at all, we both want to but i am a bit confused about when we should ttc again! there is so much conflicting advice around. some say to wait 3 months others just 1 period. my doctor said 1 period... my af returned on sunday (exactly 28 days since miscarriage) which is a good thing i guess! we have an appointment at the hospital on sept 14th as we had some tests done (placenta, and blood tests) so we might wait until we have been for that as ill be on my 2nd cycle then. will you try again? what advice have u been given re ttc again?
Oh i completely know what you mean, i think you do eventually heal from it but there will always be that little piece missing, definitely. This will always be my first pregnany and my first baby. x x
15/08/2012 at 17:45
15/08/2012 at 18:05
I agree, I wouldn't want to fall pregnant with the grief I feel now. I also feel like I might even feel a little guilty if I were too try straight away, like I don't care for this little one that we have lost, if that makes sense?
Don't worry about being nosey hun- it is nice to be asked these questions. Well because my body still thought it was pregnant it was still looking after baby, sac, etc... So I had to go into hospital to be induced. The process was awful, very painful, had to go on a morphine drip. Anyway you have to have blood tests while you are there anyway so they offered extra testing if we wanted it. I know some people would choose not to but we decided that if the tests could potentially find something that could cause this to happen again it would be silly not to. So they took a swab (to test for infection), blood tests (also for infection, genetic causes) and then when I had passed the baby they took the placenta (i think she said that they test the placenta for genetic and hereditary conditions).. It is weird for us because it happened at such an inbetweeny time, still first trimester yet just going into second, and of course with it being missed it made it seem even further along. My GP is very much of the opinion that it is one of these things/ unlikely to happen again and I should just try again (I hope to god he is right, but also don't want to risk it!)
Oh hun it is horrible when you are still bleeding. Mine lasted about 3 weeks in total, I had a few days with absolutely nothing and then it came back, so don't be alarmed if that does happen. I then had a full week of nothing and all the signs my period were coming so could definitely define difference between MC bleeding and AF.. I hope it stops for you soon! My GP basically said the same as yours about trying again, I think they are not as bothered about the emotional side and just the medical side I guess xxx
15/08/2012 at 18:16
15/08/2012 at 18:32
Ahh I'm glad it isn't just me feeling that way x Same here I feel like I have something missing now and I sooo want a baby but at the same time I wanted the baby that we have lost and I don't want to just replace him/her when I know it is important to take time to grieve because we are grieving a little for what could have been too and the people we will never get to meet x
Yes definitely, I check here quite often, it is nice to speak with someone who has had the same kind of loss and has the same sort of grief, it has been really nice to talk with you hun xxxx
15/08/2012 at 18:40
17/08/2012 at 17:09
17/08/2012 at 23:06
It does get easier I promise. Nothing will make you forget what you had and what you lost, but you have to remember that this pregnancy was not viable for whatever reason. It hurts, it really does and you will hurt when friends tell you they are pregnant. But please be comforted that your body has been able to get pregnant once...
We had a MC in june and have been trying ever since...love to all x x
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