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07/04/2015 at 15:51
So on January 6th 2015 at 14 weeks pregnant, I was told my son no long had a heartbeat. OnJanuary 12, 2015 at 138pm he was brought earth side. It was determined he died from cord strangulation. On March 12, 2015 I got a positive pregnancy test. Pregnancy has been "Normal". With my last pregnancy, I was very sick, in the hospital. This time around I started out with mildly sore breast and nausea. The nausea has increased and like clock work I wake up get sick, eat cheerios, take my prenatal and thats about it. I know I maybe over thinking everything, but all I can think of is what happened in my last pregnancy. My Ob/gyn has informed me that my chances of a second m/c are slim. So my question is how do you keep your anxiety down?
Thank you to all in advance!
07/04/2015 at 16:48
Hi hun, I suffered an early miscarriage in August of last year, and fell pregnant again in the October.
Initially it was horrible. I would basically pretend that I wasn't pregnant at all because it was easier to deal with than to possibly imagine losing another baby. I already have a daughter and this pregnancy has been vastly different from both of my previous pregnancies (hers and the baby I lost), and I don't think that helped either. Every sign that could have possibly been a 'reassurance' to me, didn't exist.
...But time passed. I got past the 12 week mark and everything seemed fine. I felt confident to tell my parents and a few other people so that I had support should the worst happen. I didn't feel comfortable enough to tell anyone else (including the in laws) until I was 16 weeks pregnant, and even then I was a bundle of nerves.
One thing I did make sure I did was to tell people about the loss we had. Not shouting it from the rooftops, but explaining to family to keep it quiet/off Facebook as we had a loss so I was finding it more difficult.
I also found the miscarriage association, and the forum that they have, and speaking to other women in similar situations really helped.
Now I'm 26 weeks, and feeling OK. I feel like this baby is going to get here. I don't feel worried at every corner... and the main thing that's changed that is time.
07/04/2015 at 17:32
I am horrible at keeping secrets and have told a few people this time. Didn't officially announce it, yet. I feel better after reading what you wrote. Though it is a daily struggle and until I get passed those weeks, I will be a bundle of nerves. I try very hard to remind myself, baby is fine. I usually talk daily with a couple close confidants and they in turn help try to settle my nerves. I do appreciate your reply and it seems we share similar experiences. I wish you the best in your pregnancy.
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