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12/03/2013 at 13:12
12/03/2013 at 14:35
12/03/2013 at 15:28
14/03/2013 at 14:04
Thank you for the kind replies. It's been so, so hard.
14/03/2013 at 15:12
you poor thing, I can only imagine how you must be feeling! there is no explanation and there won't have been anything you could have done, it's just natures way! I hope you have family around you to support you at this sad and emotional time xx
15/03/2013 at 08:32
poppy i knw how you feel and you will not forget even if you can get preg now that child wont replace tht one you alredy lost. this pain wont go away u gonna leave with it until u die, you will always asking god why you, its hard now tht you know therez no baby in your tommy, you will ask your yourself what went wrong its not your fault i lost to babies and anybaby wont replace the onces tht i already lost. im trying again i dnt knw what will happen as its not easy to try it may take 7 years to get preg again im still young they say bt thats not the reason for loosing my baby. be strong but dont try to forget because you will never forget
24/03/2013 at 08:32
Hi Poppy, I've just gone through a similar experience. My 12 week scan showed that my baby died at 8 weeks and 5 days, I was given a choice and opted for surgery which was also an emotionally painful option as you're put in waiting rooms and wards with people that are still pregnant etc. I also feel completly crushed, I keep looking back and wondering if it was my fault, if there is more that I could have done. I know deep down that "these things happen" but the statistics don't make it feel any better - I'll never forget looking at that scan screen and seeing a big empty space where my baby should have been. My husband wants to TTC as soon as we can but I feel scared that it will happen again, like I'm cruelly trying to replach the baby that did't live and like any pregnancy joy will be overshadowed by what has already happened.
25/03/2013 at 22:07
Aww I'm sorry for you both. I'm not sure how recent it was for you, but with time you most likely will want to try again. I've had over a year since my most recent miscarriage and I can honestly say that I've accepted it. I'm not saying it doesn't hurt, but time does help heal.
Newbie, I'm with you on the stats thing. Nothing was more annoying to me then reading them to hear that I was just one of the unlucky ones (one of the unlucky ones twice....how cruel). I stopped looking at the stats and looked at what the future could offer me.
26/03/2013 at 13:01
11/04/2013 at 19:50
Thank you Mrs Watson your comments are really sweet and very encouraging. To be quite honest I can't wait around too long to try again as I'll be 37 in July! The good news is that my period started yesterday so things seem to be back to normal after the surgery. Emotions still feel a little raw so maybe I'll let this cycle pass and see how we feel in another month.
Thanks for everybodies kind comments it really helps to hear positive news from people that have gone though a similar experience
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