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02/09/2012 at 08:02
02/09/2012 at 08:26
I know nothing anyone can say will make it any easier but I just wanted to send big big hugs honey. Obviously I was in DIA with you, but I have had 2 miscarriages this year and I have felt the same feeling and emotions that you are going through and so many of us have sadly been where you are now and hopefully can give you some support.
Please don't blame yourself. It was nothing that you did, and you shouldn't have done anything differently. It will take time for your heart to heal as any loss at any point is so difficult. There is no expected or certain way you should be feeling and I'm sure you are very raw at the moment. My husband bought be a beautiful heart necklace with a pearl in it to remember my first little bean that I lots and it still gives me comfort. Please look after yourself and take time off work if you need to and don't be ashamed to. I found baby expert and also the Miscarriage Association forum a big support afterwards. Give your gorgeous daughter lots and lots of cuddles today and rest xxxx
02/09/2012 at 15:18
02/09/2012 at 20:25
I'm sorry to read about your miscarrigae, it's such a shock when it happens.
The only thing I can say is - I understand totally how utterly awful you feel and how desperate the next few days/weeks and will be. It does get easier and you won't always feel like this.
I am recovering from my miscarriage at 9weeks which was 2.5 weeks ago now. I was due for my 12 week scan tomorrow and can't believe it will now be at least Christmas before we might be 12 weeks again. My baby was a baby from fertility treatment so I know how it feels to wait such a long time and then feel it's been snatched away from you.
People say lots of "comforting" things and cliches, they rarely help. But one thing did really help me, someone I know told me that she had three miscarriages before she had her little boy. She says that she always thought it was the same baby's spirit/soul trying again and again and not that she lost three seperate children. That has really helped me and I am feeling positive about trying again.
Stay positive, cuddle and grieve with your hubby and look to the future.
Any irrational feeling you have is okay, don't feel bad about them. The grieving process is a strange thing and you shouldn't feel bad for anything you feel.
I had my D&C on a Friday (after diagnosis on Thursday) and was back to work on Monday. I think people were a little judgemental at work - that I must be heartless or not really upset to be back so quickly. But for me, going back to work quickly and getting back to normal was the best thing. In hindsight I should probably have taken a couple more days off. Do whatever feels right for you.
03/09/2012 at 08:16
04/09/2012 at 09:21
04/09/2012 at 20:14
Hi babyboom ... I know its not easy to get back from this situation... but i think trying for baby again can bring u out of all these emotions.....!! The period after pregnancy will be the most fertile period .... same thing happened with my cousin who conceived after a long ttc of 3 yrs but lost.. then she got a bfp within 3 weeks.... and she got twins...
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