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26/09/2016 at 15:30
I had medical management in the uk yesterday. I was 10 weeks and 3 days and had been carrying the baby until 11+6. I had 4 pessaries put inside me which didn't hurt and a painkiller in my bum which didn't hurt either, just felt weird for a bit until it dissolved.
For an hour I laid there, no pain, nothing. I didn't feel sick or start bleeding. Just a bit traumatised by the whole Ordeal!
about 2-3 hours later nothing had happened so she put some more pessaries in, again no pain but it did start off some bleeding. By this point my anxiety had worn off a bit and I felt more focused And ready to face it all.
I laid down for another hour then started walking about. i was getting some very mild period pains at this stage so I knew something was happening, but it was easy to cope with! I was still chatting to husband and walking around easily.
Eventually I went to the toilet to have a little go at pushing, and passed a clot. A few minutes later I passed the baby, which was tiny but very beautiful. I knew it was the baby because it was very obviously a baby! I chose to look, but you don't have to. Then a few minutes later I passed the sac Which was just a big soft lump of greyish tissue. Pretty gross but you don't have to look. The nurses will check it all. The rest was just a few clots and plenty of blood! As you would expect! My pain levels reached a 3/10 max, and after I had passed the worst of it thats when I felt like I was having a few mini contractions which were more like a 6/10, so the nurse gave me some paracetamol and codeine and the pain pretty much vanished.
I was so nervous and scared and tearful at the start of this, having read all the awful experiences on the Internet: maybe it's different depending on the person and the health care in your areA. But i hope I can reassure you if you live in the UK that this is a very good choice if you have to choose between natural, medical or surgical management. I did natural with my first miscarriage at 9 weeks and I will be honest it was the most painful thing I've ever been through. I would have been a lot better off in hospital. I'd never had a d&c so can't comment on that, but I understand it can leave you with fertility problems, so that's why I opted for medical management. I also got the chance to meet my baby, and say goodbye. I know it was dead, and just a tiny little fetus, but it was beautiful and amazing to see what I had been growing inside me and it really blessed me to see it, it made the whole day worth while.
if I had another miscarriage I would go for medical management again 100%.
I know how nervous you probably are, but I promise it really is ok. I felt such a sense of dread and like I wanted to run away before. But the day after I feel ok, tearful and sad, but ok. I've even been working This morning although I am tired! My belly has already gone down to normal and I've lost a couple of pounds! My appetite is fine, and all I really keep thinking about is how beautiful the baby was. Every 2-3 hours I feel a little cramp in my tummy now. But the bleeding has gone to a medium period level and there haven't been any clots all day. You bleed for about a week apparently and can't have sex for 2 weeks. the nurse advised that you wait until your next period befoee you start trying again. Personally I don't want to try straight away, I need time to grieve this baby, but despite losing 2 babies I will try again one day.
If if you have any questions reply on here and o will try to answer!
hope this helps to reassure you.
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