Well as the title says my SIL is due to have her baby sat! It's only been 3 weeks since my MC and everyone seemed to forget about me about 3 weeks ago tbh :cry:

I'm not sure how i'm going to cope when we get the call to say she's in labour!

I'm not sure who picks and chooses which babies get to come to earth and which go straight to heaven but it frustrates me so much! Neither of them have a job, even though they are both capable of working! The reason she got pg is because her other brother was getting married and she was jealous and her partner might not even be the dad! She had been trying for a while, sleeps with someone else and bam she's pregnant!

All their facebook is always moaning about how shitty life is because their always arguing or how rubbish the council are, even though she told us last week she's getting more benefits than she thinks she's entitled to! I just wanna tell her how ungrateful she is! She's having a healthy baby for gods sake!!!

I think FIL thinks she's giving birth to Jesus the bloody second. He's brought her everything, pram, cot etc the lot! And then OH asks him if he would mind putting the extra ??300 to our new floors and he says no and laughs! How unfair is that?!

I'm just so angry. I just feel hard done to tbh :\( I go to the gym and eat well to get my body in the best shape i can for carrying my bubba. OH works 14 hour days and i've just done my degree and i work all the hours god sends to provide for our future. We have a lovely 3 bed house we just brought and the second room was gonna be our nursery. I love my OH to bits and he loves me too. We have a fabulous stable relationship and any baby i conceive will definately be his!

I would love to know the criteria for choosing who gets to meet their bubba and who doesn't!

I'm sorry for the rant i sound like a right ungrateful cow given i've just listed all the wonderful things i have, but i feel so angry and upset today. I think it's the impending birth of hers. I know it's not her babys fault, bless him! He deserves to be here as much as the next baby. Just needing to let all that out!!!

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Hi sweetie,

isn't life a b!tch sometimes?! I truley believe that if people have not sufferred a loss like we have then they can never understand - some may try but they just can't - it's not their fault it's just the situation.

For some reason a lot people think that once the physical side of things is over then we're all hunky dory again - how wring are they eh? I've had 2 mc and am lucky enough to be pg for the third time, yet I still cry over my lost babies and I can't bare to do in to the DIJ and DIO forums as it reminds me of what I should have, don't get me wrong I'm over the moon to be pg again but the heartache of my 2 other babies is still there and I don't think it will ever go.

This is one of the hardest times in your life, but I PRMOISE it does get easier, like it said it never leaves you but the pain becomes more bearable iyswim? To be quite honest, I think you're doing very well so don't be so hard on yourself, I was ranting like mad before I got pg, but if it helps I don't see m,uch harm in it - it's better out than in as they say.

Lots of hugs my lovely, and I hope you don't mind me replying even though I don't belong in this forum anymore

xxx

Hi
I know how you feel! I did everything I could to ensure that my littleone was ok and to prepare myself but it still was not good enough! Then you see people in the streets screaming at their kids smoking and drinking whilst pregnant and its enough to make you scream!!!!! I had 3 people tell me they were pregnant over the weekend. One like myself had had a mmc so I was so happy for her. The other two after a couple of months ttc - which always annoys me! One of my so called friends came up to me at my bbq and said 'I beat you to it' to inform me she was pregant!!! Then proceeded to tell me how she hates children and is only planning to take 5-6 weeks off work when she has it!!!!! Cant help feeling like she only got pregnant so she experienced it before me!! Then had the cheek to try and give me some advice about ttc! Her two months me nearly two years!

What helps me is thinking about all the lovely ladies on here who have gone onto have sucessful pregnancy we will get there and like my husband keeps saying to me its not a race.

You are allowed to rant sometimes it helps to get it off your chest!! Good luck sweetie it will be our turn soon!

Thanks for the lovely replies ladies!

I feel terrible about ranting like that but there's not really anyone i can say these things to without them being rude. I know the way i feel seems irrational to those who haven't been through it but i just can't help it!

You're more than welcome here Rainbow, i like you pregnant ladies popping back, reminds me of the light at the end.

I can totally relate to how you feel even though i'm not pg yet! We're trying again but i still cry for the baby i lost and no new baby will replace the one i lost! It's just so bloody unfair!

I hope everthings ok with your little bubba hun, i do try and pop into DID and check on you all

And buckets of babydust to you Muffin! When i announced my pregnancy,one of OH's friends said she couldn't be happy for me because she was too jealous!!She keeps saying she wanted to be the first. She joked it off but i was shocked! Then i lost my baby so she got what she wanted!

I really hope you get your BFP soon hun!

Lots of love both
xxx