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My baby was born in Dec 08
24/01/2010 at 11:35
just got back from PIL's house and while we were there SIL arrived with the twins. they all saw that DD had had new shoes yesterday. was asked what size she was (3F), she is the same size as the smaller twin who is 2 in just over 5 weeks. SIL then decides to add her 'expert' opinion on fitting childrens shoes, 'are you sure? cos the old ones seemed really big on her, one of them always keeps coming off' (she always takes her shoes off which is why she is going round with either 1 or no shoes on at all)surely clarks couldnt get measureing her feet that wrong????? it is really hard not be act proud of dd infront of her and MIL as she is doing the same things that the twins are doing. when they didnt see her walking today (too wrapped up in the boys to pay any attention to her) i was greeted with 'oh we do believe you' and 'oh she will get there' sorry she is walking and doing really well considering she is 14months (12months corrected) and born prematurely. then she accused her of stealing lego peices from her house, i was asked if i knew where they were and did she take them home with her. we arrive with 2 bags, 1 for nappies etc and the other of food and go home with 1 bag that is kept out of reach so there is no way she 'take them home'sorry just ignore me, just having a funny half hour
24/01/2010 at 15:58
TBH Abby's shoes did come off for the first couple of weeks she had them because they were slightly too big. However they were the smallest in the shop. Clarks allow room for growth, otherwise you would be buying new shoes every month. Abby also takes off her shoes every 5 seconds - next time I'm going to avoid velcro Anyway your SIL sounds like she's just being a pain. She and your MIL are always nit-picking. As Leigh says just ignore them. I think it's absolutely amazing how well she is doing considering how prem she was.H xx
24/01/2010 at 16:31
thanks girls. sil then added about the shoe 'issue' that she has only gone up a size cos she must have had thicker socks on yesterday.the twins had their first pair of shoes back in june and have only just had new ones, so after nearly 8 months they had only gone up a half size each. think she is not happy that dd's feet are growing at the 'normal' rate (ie needing new shoes every 6-8weeks
24/01/2010 at 17:30
25/01/2010 at 06:23
dropped dd off with SIL this morning as usual and as soon as i got there i was accused of using facebook to take the 'mick' out of her and the boys. this was simply as a result of a passing cooment on my statas about her walking loads yesterday. a friend from work commented and i replied that she is off her bottles growing up no longer a baby anymore (me and this friend were talking about me trying her with a cup at bedtime the other week so was just updating her).apparently now, i am in competition with her and the boys (they are 8 months older so not sure how it can be a competition) and that she is in no rush to make them grow up, meaning i am rushing her into things she is not ready for. she then starts that they CAN drink from a cup but will only have 2oz of juice whish is not enough to make them poo so she is not prepared to stop the bottles just because they are nearly 2 and she doesnt care what i think about (its her children not mine so its her descision at the end of the day, and might sound harsh but i dont care that they have bottles). my reply was they are her children and she does what ever she thinks is best for them. there are probably things that i do that she or others might not agree with, to which she replied 'Well!' in a tone of voice that suggested that there was plenty that she didnt agree with.she doesnt like it that dd doesnt go in a sleepin bag anymore, she has a fleese sleeper suit over a vest and Pjs, with a pillow and quilt, as she doesnt feel the boys are old enough to cope with a quilt incase it goes over their head adn they cant shout to tell her.what really hurts is that she thinks that i would use facebook to take the mick and make fun of them for the whole world to see.
25/01/2010 at 06:48
Oh hon, that's really sad that she feels so defensive over her parenting and sons that she has to attack you in that way. She is YOUR daughter, and you are raising her as you see fit, and if your SIL thinks that you are 'competing' with her, that's her problem.We all think you're a fab mum - just look at how well shes is coming on, especially for being 2 months prem. And if it makes you feel better, Rachel wears PJ's intead of sleepsuits, has had a pillow and quilt since 11 months, and dropped the last bottle 2 weeks ago.You're in the right, and TBH you dealt with it a lot better than I probably would have done had my SIL accused me of that!Hannah xx
25/01/2010 at 06:54
you just made me cry hannah but thank you. i would never have taken the mick out of them. its just getting to the point where is it on thing after another. last week she shouted at me not to watch the boys eat when i dropped her off as they dont need a audience. i was only standing where i was because i couldnt get past her and the high chairs so wanted to wait until she had finished feeding them.
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