Rant away!!! It does the world of good to get it off you chest.
My OH was a bit like this re Emilia until I refused to get up one morning and he had too! He like your OH (I think), he is a chef and works during the day and evening so needs to get up so he can spend time with Emilia. Thankfully now they have their own morning thing going. I think you need to tell him straight how you are feeling and that he needs to pull his weight. At least help you now he is at home and you are working. Like looby said at least start dinner!!
I really don't mean to be harsh but I think he needs frog marching down the job centre ASAP! Does he know that the letters are arriving?
I remember your previous posts, and I am not sure if there is any family? If there is could they help you to explain to him how lucky he is to have a beautiful wife and daughter who are sticking by him even though life is tough.
You are not superwoman but it sounds like he is expecting you to be!
Please know that we are hear to listen and no we will not ignore!! xxxxx